Do stem women stay single for longer than those who are in the humanities?

[Anonymous]

No, I have not observed this at all. If anything, if you are remotely attractive, the woman would be surrounded by suitors in male dominated industries.

I worked in finance and surrounded by men constantly. Women who work in female dominated fields may meet less men.

[Anonymous]

I met my husband (non-STEM) at 26. Married at 28.

I’ve worked in STEM my entire life and I only see it with the women that actively choose work over any outside life.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it seems more STEM women are marrying late and divorcing early.

[Anonymous]

All my friends from grad school (STEM) married and had kids in their early 30s, which was on par with my non-STEM friends who also got advanced degrees. I don't see a STEM vs humanities trend here.

[Anonymous]

Philosophy major and JD here -- no. Lots of us get married later too.

You can't generalize in either direction. It's mostly about timing and meeting the person you want to marry. I have friends who married and had babies while in grad school, and others who didn't meet the love of their lives until their late 30s.

[Anonymous]

Stem women make more money and have less financial need to pair up.

[Anonymous]

Wow. The stereotyping of STEM women in this assumption is pretty astounding.

[Anonymous]

All the women doing PhDs in my lab were already married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think STEM people (men and women) are very flexible more than we give them credit for. And their marriages tend be long and stable. My parents (both math Phds) just celebrated their 50th anniversary. They look so cute together,always holding hands, saying they love each other etc. I can't even remember a time I saw them arguing.

So I think STEM women have a lot of qualities that men like. Personally I have noticed that STEM women that are very smart are far less condescending toward others compared to women in the social sciences and humanities. When I was single many women here in DC looked down on the college I went to, even though I graduated summa cum laud with an engineering physics degree. A lot of them were lawyers, marketing executives etc.

Ha! I agree. Aero Eng undergrad and EE Masters. I went to big state universities that would give the harpies on the college forum the vapors. Funny thing is I'm a happily married exec, bet a lot of the T10 lawyers who sneer at my schools are the same ones complaining about their work/jobs/etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed my friends who are MD’s, scientists, majored in stem are single or have to compromise a lot more than women who studied humanities.

Thoughts?

And no I’m not comparing some MIT alum to sec marketing woman…

…I mean from relatively same school tier…

I noticed this when I went back to my 15th year college reunion this summer.

There are some factors that make it not exactly a like for like comparison (my stem friends are more likely to be from middle class and non-white/ethnic white backgrounds)

Have you noticed this as well?

First of all, it’s not “stem.”

The correct term is STEAM; it has been so for over a decade.

Do better.

[Anonymous]

What is with all the weird misogynistic crap being posted ? This stuff used to get deleted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve noticed my friends who are MD’s, scientists, majored in stem are single or have to compromise a lot more than women who studied humanities.

Thoughts?

And no I’m not comparing some MIT alum to sec marketing woman…

…I mean from relatively same school tier…

I noticed this when I went back to my 15th year college reunion this summer.

There are some factors that make it not exactly a like for like comparison (my stem friends are more likely to be from middle class and non-white/ethnic white backgrounds)

Have you noticed this as well?

First of all, it’s not “stem.”

The correct term is STEAM; it has been so for over a decade.

Do better.

Actually S—STEAM is the new norm.

[Anonymous]

I have a STEM PhD and married my college sweetheart. We met in college but got married during grad school.

My experience has actually been that women in lower paid professions have more trouble in the DMV dating scene. I'm friends with a few teachers who make $50-75k and they all struggled, as many men want a partner with more income given the HCOL in this area.