Kinda Dumb But Kinda Weird.

[Anonymous]

Why is your brother talking to you about his wife’s sex life from before they were married? That is dumb AND weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your brother talking to you about his wife’s sex life from before they were married? That is dumb AND weird.

It's not his brother, people!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because women are still judged for their number in ways men are not. There is a double standard.

I’m all for judging both genders equally harshly for promiscuity. It reveals personality flaws.

[Anonymous]

Weird he's discussing his sex life with his sister. However, that may be the norm for them.

I don't know .. It seems he cares alot about how many men his wife has slept with prior to him... So may be grounds for divorce for him.

[Anonymous]

"Brother's" feewings are big hurt!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother is out west helping his wife move their father from her childhood home into a nursing home. She is also collecting her HS memorabilia that has been sitting there for 25 years. She found a photo album with the usual pics of prom, homecoming, beach week, etc.

There are, according to him, about 25 pictures of her with different guys. He jokingly asked if she'd slept with all of them. She got angry at the question but eventually admitted she had.

They have been married for 13 years and both shared their 'numbers' but he now realizes this is a complete lie. He is quite upset, really not so much about the number, but more that she's been lying for years and years. He feels like he doesn't really know here now.

Why would she lie about sex from HS?

Honestly, if my brother asked me this, I would ask him if he was upset about the lie or upset about the number. Either way my brother answers, I’d still tell him he’s sexist. The whole conversation about numbers is sexist - women are judged for their number in a way that a man would not be. Your brother feels like it is his role to investigate and question his wife about her sexual history that happened a decade before your brother met and married her - that is bananas sexist and controlling. Who his wife slept with prior to him is actually none of his business. If he was worried about STDs, then the thing to do is get tested and negotiate monogamy. If he was worried about sexual fidelity, then the thing to do is talk about that and negotiate it explicitly, not guess whether fidelity will won’t happen because of past sexual history.

The conversation about numbers also doesn’t include any thought to the ways in which women are taught about their sexuality by the culture - ways that encourage them to sleep with men (gatekeeping sex and childbirth are still a woman’s main power even in these modern times) or ways in which they are sexually abused which encourages a cycle of sleeping with people to soothe or act out abuse, and then there’s the whole aspect of figuring out your sexuality and what you do and don’t like in people.

Honestly, if a guy asked me for my number, I would dump him. Your brother is lucky she didn’t do that to him.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth was she honest this time around? Probably wanted to hurt her husband.

[Anonymous]

25 sexual partners in high school makes me wonder if she was a victim of sexual violence as a minor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:25 sexual partners in high school makes me wonder if she was a victim of sexual violence as a minor.

Or maybe she was a horny teenager and enjoyed sex. Women are allowed to enjoy and want sex.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m assuming she would lie because of the kind of judgement women face for having a sex life? Just a shot in the dark.

There is 'having a sex life' and then there is 'sleeping with 25 people between the ages of 14 and 18.'

Most (men and women) would not consider them synonymous.

What's the difference?

You think there is none?

Did you buy your mattress at a second hand store?

You sleep in hotels. This is a nonsense comparison.

The difference between 'having a sex life' and some bullshit judgments about what is/isn't an appropriate sex life is some judgmental nonsense and cultural programming that wouldn't bat an eye at a man doing the same thing.

Unpack that instead of making ridiculous comparisons to used mattresses.

Not for you to shame someone for having preferences. The husband does not have a right to tell the wife what she should or should not have done in her life. He also has the right to marry whoever he wishes and she should not have lied about something that was important to him (for whatever reason).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My brother is out west helping his wife move their father from her childhood home into a nursing home. She is also collecting her HS memorabilia that has been sitting there for 25 years. She found a photo album with the usual pics of prom, homecoming, beach week, etc.

There are, according to him, about 25 pictures of her with different guys. He jokingly asked if she'd slept with all of them. She got angry at the question but eventually admitted she had.

They have been married for 13 years and both shared their 'numbers' but he now realizes this is a complete lie. He is quite upset, really not so much about the number, but more that she's been lying for years and years. He feels like he doesn't really know here now.

Why would she lie about sex from HS?

Honestly, if my brother asked me this, I would ask him if he was upset about the lie or upset about the number. Either way my brother answers, I’d still tell him he’s sexist.

“I’m upset I married a liar.”

“You’re sexist.”

GTFO

[Anonymous]

This is hilarious!!! Good for his wife.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m assuming she would lie because of the kind of judgement women face for having a sex life? Just a shot in the dark.

There is 'having a sex life' and then there is 'sleeping with 25 people between the ages of 14 and 18.'

Most (men and women) would not consider them synonymous.

What's the difference?

You think there is none?

Did you buy your mattress at a second hand store?

You sleep in hotels. This is a nonsense comparison.

The difference between 'having a sex life' and some bullshit judgments about what is/isn't an appropriate sex life is some judgmental nonsense and cultural programming that wouldn't bat an eye at a man doing the same thing.

Unpack that instead of making ridiculous comparisons to used mattresses.

Not for you to shame someone for having preferences. The husband does not have a right to tell the wife what she should or should not have done in her life. He also has the right to marry whoever he wishes and she should not have lied about something that was important to him (for whatever reason).

While a bit of a digression, you often see these types of women who will do the dirtiest things in their sloot phase but decline to anything remotely dirty with the one they supposedly love.

[Anonymous]

Why did he ask that question to begin with, is he in high school? Tell him to grow up

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Anonymous wrote:I’m assuming she would lie because of the kind of judgement women face for having a sex life? Just a shot in the dark.

There is 'having a sex life' and then there is 'sleeping with 25 people between the ages of 14 and 18.'

Most (men and women) would not consider them synonymous.

What's the difference?

You think there is none?

Did you buy your mattress at a second hand store?

You sleep in hotels. This is a nonsense comparison.

The difference between 'having a sex life' and some bullshit judgments about what is/isn't an appropriate sex life is some judgmental nonsense and cultural programming that wouldn't bat an eye at a man doing the same thing.

Unpack that instead of making ridiculous comparisons to used mattresses.

Not for you to shame someone for having preferences. The husband does not have a right to tell the wife what she should or should not have done in her life. He also has the right to marry whoever he wishes and she should not have lied about something that was important to him (for whatever reason).

While a bit of a digression, you often see these types of women who will do the dirtiest things in their sloot phase but decline to anything remotely dirty with the one they supposedly love.

Are you under the impression that a woman owes you something?