What gift do you give a couple that’s eloped and hosting a wedding reception a year later?
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Anonymous
Lots of people give checks. Don't worry about it. Agree on $250. |
Anonymous
I was married 15 years ago this fall in DC. Didn’t get a single gift on my wedding day- checks only. I did get lots of gifts at my shower though! |
Anonymous
| I'd give a $100 gift card from amazon, target, or where ever they can use it to get stuff for them or the baby. Or, maybe $75 and another $50 for the abby depending on how close you are. |
Anonymous
My people never do cash but if there's no registry agree on a check and $250 is about right. |
Anonymous
Amazon is a good, versatile choice. |
Anonymous
This. How tacky. |
Anonymous
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I’d give $ or a gift card in the same amount that I would give for a regular wedding. Personally.
Unlike others, I don’t see it as a gift grab (absent other information) or look at this in a negative light. It sounds like they have a lot of responsibilities on their plates, and probably not much $, so the eloping was probably the responsible thing to do. Now they are throwing a party to celebrate. Great! |
Anonymous
I don’t understand this viewpoint. No one was invited to the wedding ceremony so OP was not excluded. They are hosting a reception now, and have invited OP. A gift is not ever required of course- but it would certainly be customary here. |
Anonymous
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I’d probably do a gift card to a restaurant near them. $100-$250 depending on your budget.
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Anonymous
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A nice fat check. Honestly, they saved themselves and their family a ton of money by having a low-key wedding, and they are also sacrificing their privacy to care for the parents and their home. Now they are blessed with a child, which is beautiful. With the way you tell the story, I have nothing but praise and zero criticisms.
Also, don't forget to give something at the upcoming baby shower. |
Anonymous
No. A restaurant gift card is a birthday present, not a wedding present. Not to mention they probably need real money way more than they need a single night out. |
Anonymous
FFS give a Visa gift card and shaddap. |
Anonymous
| Give more than you would at what you consider "a traditional ceremony." This is an honorable couple doing one of life's hardest things . . . Being a caregiver to your parents. Kudos to the couple. |
Anonymous
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Acquaintances: $75
Friends: $100 Good Friends: $150 Best Friends: $200 Family members: $250+ Adjust amounts based on what you can afford. Nobody expects you to go broke over a wedding gift. |
Anonymous
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Just a gift grab. You weren’t invited to the wedding so definitely don’t owe them a wedding gift. Someone can’t have a party a year later and expect wedding presents, that’s insane.
Honestly I’d try to avoid the whole thing. I’m sure you won’t be the only one. |