CPS Advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had something similar happen. Not sure what others are saying, but I think CPS has to investigate any report. Ours was closed quickly. For the record, no bruises or marks on my child either and my child is and has never been hit.

agree- the job of CPS investigators are to decide if reports are credible. They will ask questions and decide it is not and then close the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is coping because she has no dad. She’s making up stories instead. She needs a father figure in her life - neighbor, uncle, grandpa, etc. this is a red flag for future big issues that CPS should be involved in and you need to help her now.

That’s a great way to get m0lested.

[Anonymous]

I can only speak to Virginia, but if they do anything it would start as a family assessment, not a full blown investigation with a finding. With a family assessment, the goal is making a safety plan ("no more slapping") and maybe offering services. In your situation, if you even get interviewed, it won't progress to a safety plan and will be closed out.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thx for helping me feel less overwhelmed. It was a camp counselor that reported. They asked my daughter 'really?' And she said 'no.' And yet still reported smh. Yes I talked to her about words have consequences. The meeting is tmrw. A lawyer told me that even if it's unsubstantiated, I will lose my job as a teacher (I am a mandated reporter also and would always follow protocol to ask follow up questions bc children say crazy things sometimes). So I really need it dismissed. I understand ppl can make projections about my daughter. She is close with grandpa and uncles, just being a 12yo boundary pusher. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thx for helping me feel less overwhelmed. It was a camp counselor that reported. They asked my daughter 'really?' And she said 'no.' And yet still reported smh. Yes I talked to her about words have consequences. The meeting is tmrw. A lawyer told me that even if it's unsubstantiated, I will lose my job as a teacher (I am a mandated reporter also and would always follow protocol to ask follow up questions bc children say crazy things sometimes). So I really need it dismissed. I understand ppl can make projections about my daughter. She is close with grandpa and uncles, just being a 12yo boundary pusher. Thank you.

What kind of lawyer? If they don't find evidence that you abused her, you would not lose your job in the state where I teach.

The protocol is not to ask follow up questions. The protocol is to report to CPS and let them decide whether there is enough information to proceed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had something similar happen. Not sure what others are saying, but I think CPS has to investigate any report. Ours was closed quickly. For the record, no bruises or marks on my child either and my child is and has never been hit.

agree- the job of CPS investigators are to decide if reports are credible. They will ask questions and decide it is not and then close the case.

Thank you for sharing 🙏

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thx for helping me feel less overwhelmed. It was a camp counselor that reported. They asked my daughter 'really?' And she said 'no.' And yet still reported smh. Yes I talked to her about words have consequences. The meeting is tmrw. A lawyer told me that even if it's unsubstantiated, I will lose my job as a teacher (I am a mandated reporter also and would always follow protocol to ask follow up questions bc children say crazy things sometimes). So I really need it dismissed. I understand ppl can make projections about my daughter. She is close with grandpa and uncles, just being a 12yo boundary pusher. Thank you.

What kind of lawyer? If they don't find evidence that you abused her, you would not lose your job in the state where I teach.

The protocol is not to ask follow up questions. The protocol is to report to CPS and let them decide whether there is enough information to proceed.

Family lawyer said this for DC. Unsubstantiated would be there's no evidence it happened but also no evidence that it didn't happen.

Mandated reporter in DC is to ask 5 questions - what happened, when, where, with whom, child's relationship to that person.

You can't report every single thing a child says, especially in urban schools. We have human teachers to be discerning. If it was just about key words, we could just use bots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh also you should call cps and report THEM. How insane that their child first said her parents slapped them and then those parents had the gall to report you??

Re-read the OP- nowhere does it say the other parent was the reporter. My guess is that a teacher overheard and had to report both sets of parents as is their duty. Silly in this scenario, but required, and the teacher could be fired for not reporting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thx for helping me feel less overwhelmed. It was a camp counselor that reported. They asked my daughter 'really?' And she said 'no.' And yet still reported smh. Yes I talked to her about words have consequences. The meeting is tmrw. A lawyer told me that even if it's unsubstantiated, I will lose my job as a teacher (I am a mandated reporter also and would always follow protocol to ask follow up questions bc children say crazy things sometimes). So I really need it dismissed. I understand ppl can make projections about my daughter. She is close with grandpa and uncles, just being a 12yo boundary pusher. Thank you.

I’m sure it will be declared as “unfounded”, but your name will go on a black list for 18 months. You must notify your employer. its not fair, but it is the way it is. You won’t lose your job if it is “unfounded”. Btdt and school employee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thx for helping me feel less overwhelmed. It was a camp counselor that reported. They asked my daughter 'really?' And she said 'no.' And yet still reported smh. Yes I talked to her about words have consequences. The meeting is tmrw. A lawyer told me that even if it's unsubstantiated, I will lose my job as a teacher (I am a mandated reporter also and would always follow protocol to ask follow up questions bc children say crazy things sometimes). So I really need it dismissed. I understand ppl can make projections about my daughter. She is close with grandpa and uncles, just being a 12yo boundary pusher. Thank you.

I’m sure it will be declared as “unfounded”, but your name will go on a black list for 18 months. You must notify your employer. its not fair, but it is the way it is. You won’t lose your job if it is “unfounded”. Btdt and school employee.

I see, thank you very much for sharing that 🙏

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that is happening to you OP! That's so dumb.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your union.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter is coping because she has no dad. She’s making up stories instead. She needs a father figure in her life - neighbor, uncle, grandpa, etc. this is a red flag for future big issues that CPS should be involved in and you need to help her now.

That’s a great way to get m0lested.

You need to be reported to CPS if your only network is a bunch of child abusers you won’t let near your kid, big yikes.

[Anonymous]

You seem to be over involved, OP. Step back.

[Anonymous]

Kids all around the country in such big trouble in every single way and this is the crap our government officials are concerned with. SMH.