Should I give in to my mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember, it's ok to say, "Mom you're being rude." if she tries to use emotional manipulation on you. Family do not get a pass on being rude.

I agree with you, but I also think telling Mom she is rude probably wouldn't make a difference and would likely give Mom an opening to say more rude/crazy things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember, it's ok to say, "Mom you're being rude." if she tries to use emotional manipulation on you. Family do not get a pass on being rude.

I agree with you, but I also think telling Mom she is rude probably wouldn't make a difference and would likely give Mom an opening to say more rude/crazy things.

No you’d be surprised. There will be a fluttering of how dare you say I’m rude or a breakdown of pouting but it will force her to change her tactics. Her generation embraces what they consider passive aggressive behavior and indirect manipulation. The only antidote is directness and honestly not caring. You being upset by it or giving in is the fuel to her grandma behaving badly engine. Let her run out of gas.

[Anonymous]

Think of adult relationships, between equals. (if you are not financially dependent on Mom & Dad, you are equal). Sometimes someone gets mad. Behavior adjusts and in time, a new normal emerges.