Was your shut out DC able to transfer successfully?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was truly shut out, he's not transferring -- he's taking a gap year and reapplying. If what you actually mean is he was accepted and will attend a less preferred school, it will be much better for his happiness and success to go in with the attitude of making the best of it, aiming to stay, and developing relationships. If he's truly unhappy in the beginning of spring semester, then he can consider transferring.

Agree. Transferring is no picnic.

??? So much easier to transfer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was truly shut out, he's not transferring -- he's taking a gap year and reapplying. If what you actually mean is he was accepted and will attend a less preferred school, it will be much better for his happiness and success to go in with the attitude of making the best of it, aiming to stay, and developing relationships. If he's truly unhappy in the beginning of spring semester, then he can consider transferring.

Agree. Transferring is no picnic.

??? So much easier to transfer.

Easier than what? When you transfer, you lose friends and connections. Maybe worth it if you are unhappy at your first school, but to start assuming that you'll transfer because of prestige is a bad idea.

[Anonymous]

I know 3 kids in 2023 who were shut out of their top choices (2 landed in T30 schools but in a just world, they should have gone to Ivies). The T30 kids both transferred to Cornell. The one who really got screwed transferred to Georgetown. So all good outcomes in the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know 3 kids in 2023 who were shut out of their top choices (2 landed in T30 schools but in a just world, they should have gone to Ivies). The T30 kids both transferred to Cornell. The one who really got screwed transferred to Georgetown. So all good outcomes in the end.

Nobody got screwed, they just weren't selected from a pool of many thousands of qualified candidates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he was truly shut out, he's not transferring -- he's taking a gap year and reapplying. If what you actually mean is he was accepted and will attend a less preferred school, it will be much better for his happiness and success to go in with the attitude of making the best of it, aiming to stay, and developing relationships. If he's truly unhappy in the beginning of spring semester, then he can consider transferring.

Agree. Transferring is no picnic.

Most kids who transfer were not happy and they are now.


??? So much easier to transfer.

Easier than what? When you transfer, you lose friends and connections. Maybe worth it if you are unhappy at your first school, but to start assuming that you'll transfer because of prestige is a bad idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know 3 kids in 2023 who were shut out of their top choices (2 landed in T30 schools but in a just world, they should have gone to Ivies). The T30 kids both transferred to Cornell. The one who really got screwed transferred to Georgetown. So all good outcomes in the end.

This sense of entitlement is really harmful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shut out means the applicant was aiming too high. If the same unrealistic approach carries through to the transfer, the outcome could be the same.

This view of shut out just isn’t accurate. Plenty of stellar kids get the wrong counselor (who writes a bland letter and just doesn’t care) or don’t brag (or make up) enough, or just get overlooked. Happened To my kid and at least one of his friends this year.