Is my gf being a brat, or am I looking too much into this?

[Anonymous]

You totally ditched her.

[Anonymous]

Yup, your GF was definitely acting like a brat.

Like you stated - no definite plans had been solidified yet plus you had invited her to come to your friend’s barbecue.
She should have joined you at the barbecue.

You did not “ditch” her in any way, shape or form.

How old is she?
She seems a little immature……

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was being a little passive aggressive, but you did ditch her. You didn’t have set plans yet, but you had planned to spend the day together. So you deciding to go to the cookout without discussing it with her is changing your plans without her input.

This.

This is ludicrous input OP >> pay it no attention. You did not ditch your gf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You chase after dogs, not women.

Well trained dogs come to you when they are summoned.

[Anonymous]

You made individual plans first (before she did) which is fine. You did not have concrete plans together as a couple. She was welcome to accept your invitation to come along OR make alternate plans. And she chose to make alternate plans.

You are reading too much into it.

The fact that you are calling her a “brat” is a red flag. You sound a little immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You made individual plans first (before she did) which is fine. You did not have concrete plans together as a couple. She was welcome to accept your invitation to come along OR make alternate plans. And she chose to make alternate plans.

You are reading too much into it.

The fact that you are calling her a “brat” is a red flag. You sound a little immature.

Agree.You picked your friend over your GF. Don't gaslight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was being a little passive aggressive, but you did ditch her. You didn’t have set plans yet, but you had planned to spend the day together. So you deciding to go to the cookout without discussing it with her is changing your plans without her input. If you had approached it as an option that you’d decide on together, I am willing to bet she’d have agreed to go with you.

This is the correct answer. You DID ditch her.

[Anonymous]

She plays you like this because you let her. Stop being a weak man and falling for this crap. When she acts like a child, treat her like a child.

[Anonymous]

This reads to me like you two had plans to spend the 4th together, doing what exactly tbd.

Then you decided to go to your cousins house and “she was invited to come”.

That is absolutely ditching her, going from “we will be together on the 4th, dont know what we will do but it will be together” to “im going to my cousins, you can tag along”.

You should have let her know about your cousins bbq and asked if thats something she would like to do. If not, well, you two could find something else to do together.

What is more important to you? Spending time w your gf, or finding “something to do”?

[Anonymous]

You did ditch her.

[Anonymous]

Vomit- move on already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh is this basketball divorced dude again?

Omg totally sounds like him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was being a little passive aggressive, but you did ditch her. You didn’t have set plans yet, but you had planned to spend the day together. So you deciding to go to the cookout without discussing it with her is changing your plans without her input.

This.

+1. You did ditch her. She was then well within line to make her own plans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple of days ago my gf and I had had discussed some ideas for the 4th but we hadn’t solidified anything yet just that she was going to come over earlier in the day. Yesterday, my friend invited me to his cookout for today. So, I told her last night that I was going to my friend’s cookout and she was welcome to come. This morning she called me and asked me what time I was going to the cookout. I told her. She said she wasn’t too keen on going because she doesn’t know anyone there (she’s introverted). She usually does go with me to things but I guess she just wasn’t up to it today. My friend lives about 5 minutes away from her, so she said there was no point coming over early to my house if I’m going to the cookout on her side of town, so she would just come over after.

A few hours later I texted her the address of the cookout if she changed her mind and that we could go see the fireworks at 930. She called me and told me since I was going to the cookout she called her cousin and they had made plans. I asked her if we were still going to see each other afterwards and she said she didn’t know because they may go out tonight and then said as she chuckled, “since you ditched me today”. I told her I didn’t ditch her and she brought up the plans we had discussed a few days ago. I reminded her that we had solidified anything and that some of my friends would be at the cookout so I’d rather go to that. She ended the call by saying she’d let me know later tonight if she was coming over or not.

Miscommunication. You should have said, can we go to my cousin's cookout and then go to the fireworks afterwards instead of "I'm going to my cousin's cookout and you're more than welcome to come." NExt, she too was being petty by being passive aggressive and letting you know that she may or may not come over since you "ditched" her. You both sound like high school kids in a relationship. Actually, my 17 yr old and her boyfriend would have handled this more maturely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She plays you like this because you let her. Stop being a weak man and falling for this crap. When she acts like a child, treat her like a child.

Kinda this.
Also, there are fun ways of establishing dominance.