Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was young and dumb, I asked my older SIL this question, not understanding it was loaded. She said, rather animatedly, that she hadn't met her husband (my husband's brother) until then.

My question was so cringe, thinking back on it. She's an accomplished dentist who owns her practice, and has 4 kids. She's got no explanations to give to anyone.

Me again. I got married at 23 and asked her this question before that. She was probably in her 40s then. We're both still married!

[Anonymous]

We got married at 22, 6 months after graduating college. We are still together 20 years later. We have 2 kids. I couldn't let her get away because someone would have snatched her. It's hard to find the right partner and I didn't want to wait until my 30s to look for one especially after one presented itself in my early 20s. We had our first child at 25. We were both in the same electrical engineering program. And we both started working soon after graduation. Everything was lined up for us there was no reason to wait.

[Anonymous]

We think this is new, but my grandmother and grandfather were from very different cultural and religious backgrounds. They married when my grandmother was 38 (grandfather was 41), and their kids were born when she was 39 and 42.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.

My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.

Height of stupidity

I'm afraid you are the dumb imbecile here.

+1 people who get married too early (not financially stable, emotionally/mentally mature) have a higher chance of getting divorced.

I'm from a small town in the South and frankly it was the dumb kids who were never going to have real jobs who got married before their late 20s/early 30s. I moved to dc and where I worked no one married early. I loved dating around, travelling, and hanging with a group of similarly aged people I knew through work. I pity people who marry out of high school or college. They're also usually poor.

[Anonymous]

Early 20 year olds are not fully cooked adults. People change a lot from the age of 19-20 to later 20s. A lot of women who marry young seem stunted and they usually don't have much life experience. All they know is how to be in pair bondage with someone else.

[Anonymous]

I had many men interested in me but none I really liked enough to settle down with

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend of 4 years wouldn’t commit. Worked out in the end, married at 33, together for 20 years now.

TBH, I probably would’ve said to yes to any of the boyfriends I had from age 18 on had they asked. Was serious enough with 3 or 4 that we talked about it. But whew, I dodged a LOT of bullets there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted to have 500k in savings first and be a senior software engineer. I achieved that 33. I only casually dated before and once I reached those goals Married the first woman I seriously dated. We met at 34 and married at 36. I was 36 and she was 33.

While dating with intent to marry I noticed that a lot of women were interested. I think some women perhaps wait because men aren't ready.

This is such an engineer response.

[Anonymous]

I'm heading for round 2 in my mid 30s (partner upper 30s)

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Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.

My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.

Height of stupidity

I'm afraid you are the dumb imbecile here.

+1 people who get married too early (not financially stable, emotionally/mentally mature) have a higher chance of getting divorced.

Divorce rates start going back up when you marry in your mid 30s. By your late 30s they're basically the same as in your early 20s. Statistically, 25-32 is the sweet spot.

Wrong. Statistically 28-32 age range has the most success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had many men interested in me but none I really liked enough to settle down with

Exactly this. I wasn’t too picky either they were not the one. I met him much much later than 30.

[Anonymous]

Because I spent too much time dating a loser.who didn't want to get married in my 20s. Don't do this, if a guy doesn't want to get married within about a year or so post college, dump him and go forward.

[Anonymous]

Didn't meet DH until I was 35 and had given up on getting married. We were married the next year and now have 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?

I wanted to live the sex and the city lifestyle.

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[Anonymous]

I was having too much fun.