I hate my husband’s family

[Anonymous]

How to Manage Your Mother, Mama Drama, books like those can work for MILs too.

[Anonymous]

What are the actual issues OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are the actual issues OP?

They exist is my guess.

[Anonymous]

I love my in-laws. It's my husband who is the problem

All joking aside, OP, you actually do have a husband problem if your in-laws have such a negative impact on your life. He should be the one protecting his nuclear family from his parents and/or siblings.

So tell us the details, maybe we'll have solutions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Grey rock them! My in laws were a nightmare until I discovered grey rock (look it up). It was life changing. Don’t end your life and ruin your children’s lives because of horrible people. Your children need their mother. Ending your life gives your in laws way too much control. YOU take control of the situation and grey rock them.

+1 I have written about grey rocking on this site before, and I am forever indebted to the person who first posted about it. Honestly, it's healthier for everyone including yourself.

Another who thanks the people that post about grey rocking so I could learn about it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They raised your husband, presumably the man you love, and father of your children. Does your husband feel the same way about them? If so, go no contact. If not, let him deal with them (all contact, holiday arrangements, gifts, visits, etc.). You don't need to visit with them at all

+1000000

[Anonymous]

Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

[Anonymous]

My mother would talk like you. We wished she would just divorce my dad because she was basically blaming her unhappiness on us. It made us feel terribly guilty and helpless so we bent over backwards to make her life worth living. Either get a divorce or get counseling and antidepressants to deal with your choices in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

And why are you and husband not banning them from your house? Why are not cutting ties?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

Is this OP? I doubt it.

[Anonymous]

Get thee to a doctor or a hospital ER immediately. I’m concerned. We’re concerned about you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

Is this OP? I doubt it.

Yes this is OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

And why are you and husband not banning them from your house? Why are not cutting ties?

+1

(1) they are no longer welcome in our home and (2) they cannot be around the children when they are not sober would be a good start.

If your husband wants to visit them otherwise on his own, that is his own choice. If they get sober for a length of time, reevaluate.

If you husband can’t agree to those things to protect you and the kids, then you have a husband problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

Is this OP? I doubt it.

Yes this is OP

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this OP. Drugs, alcoholism, stealing money…these are all serious issues. You must put your foot down and tell your husband that enough is enough. You don’t want these people in your house EVER. I would even consider contacting the police.

[Anonymous]

Kids should not be around addicts. If someone stole from me I'd file a police report.