Daughter still wets the bed common?

[Anonymous]

I have a 9 year old son who does this. I think it is ridiculous that kids have to go through this. He is so embarrassed and I have found him in his room crying about it.
All doctors will tell you it is normal, but I can’t shake the feeling that it is indicative of some other health issues.
I will say some doctors will blame constipation. And there are some studies that indicate that sleep apnea can also cause night wetting. You can make an appointment with a pediatric urologist but they will pass you off to a PA who will run tests and then tell you it’s normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mentioned this in another post. I wet the bed until I was 10 and it was super embarrassing. It was pretty much every night and I missed out on many sleepovers. My daughter is finally starting to outgrow it. I will agree, it is definitely genetics.

How? Brain or what?

Thats a good question. The dr told me that if you wet the bed, your child is 2X more likely to wet the bed. If both you and dad wet the bed, your child is 3X likely. I dont know if being a heavy or deep sleeper comes from a parent though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mentioned this in another post. I wet the bed until I was 10 and it was super embarrassing. It was pretty much every night and I missed out on many sleepovers. My daughter is finally starting to outgrow it. I will agree, it is definitely genetics.

How? Brain or what?

Yes, you have no brain.

[Anonymous]

No, not normal at all. My DD is 8 and hasn’t wet the bed since age 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, not normal at all. My DD is 8 and hasn’t wet the bed since age 5.

Your data point is meaningless. It's within the range of normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 9 year old son who does this. I think it is ridiculous that kids have to go through this. He is so embarrassed and I have found him in his room crying about it.
All doctors will tell you it is normal, but I can’t shake the feeling that it is indicative of some other health issues.
I will say some doctors will blame constipation. And there are some studies that indicate that sleep apnea can also cause night wetting. You can make an appointment with a pediatric urologist but they will pass you off to a PA who will run tests and then tell you it’s normal.

So what have you tried? Or do you do nothing because the doctor you don't believe said it was normal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 9 year old son who does this. I think it is ridiculous that kids have to go through this. He is so embarrassed and I have found him in his room crying about it.
All doctors will tell you it is normal, but I can’t shake the feeling that it is indicative of some other health issues.
I will say some doctors will blame constipation. And there are some studies that indicate that sleep apnea can also cause night wetting. You can make an appointment with a pediatric urologist but they will pass you off to a PA who will run tests and then tell you it’s normal.

So you've consulted what 5 doctors (or more) who all say it's normal, but you don't believe them? You're going on your "feeling"? I'm sorry but you're never going to like any answer you get.

[Anonymous]

I mean, come on.

You know this isn’t common.

You know most 9 year olds are not wetting the bed.

However, your daughter is having this issue, so you support her the best you can. Keeping diapers discreetly stored in her room and having mattress protectors are good approaches. In general, I don’t think bed alarms are helpful. She’ll outgrow this eventually.

[Anonymous]

My 8 year old son still struggles with enuresis at night. We went to a urologist a couple months ago everything checks out . We were told that it should quit by puberty . We just use goodnites and don't make to big of deal about it they'll stop when there ready.

[Anonymous]

I was that girl who would wet the bed till I was maybe 11 or even 12. I'm one of five and my brother was wetting the bed as well, but my 3 other siblings didn't. It was very stressful for me and uncomfortable, my mom was frustrated with changing the sheets etc. My mom even went with me to a doctor and as I recall I got some pills for it, it worked maybe for a few days and they it didn't ( I'm from a different country). I can't recall when exactly it went away, but it did on its own. I'm in my late 40s and am very healthy, all my blood work is great. My daughter who is 10 now never had this issue. I know how frustrating this is now for you, but it just takes patience and time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 year old son still struggles with enuresis at night. We went to a urologist a couple months ago everything checks out . We were told that it should quit by puberty . We just use goodnites and don't make to big of deal about it they'll stop when there ready.

That's exactly what I would do as well, just don't stress yourselves and your child regarding bedwetting.

[Anonymous]

I am guessing you have explored this already, but any chance she’s constipted? That can lead to accidents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, come on.

You know this isn’t common.

You know most 9 year olds are not wetting the bed.

However, your daughter is having this issue, so you support her the best you can. Keeping diapers discreetly stored in her room and having mattress protectors are good approaches. In general, I don’t think bed alarms are helpful. She’ll outgrow this eventually.

It happens to more of them than you realize, but because people are so judgmental, they keep it quiet.

I wet the bed consistently until 9 and after that off and on even into high school. I changed my own sheets and did my own laundry -- my parents don't even realize how long it went on. I was very embarrassed and ashamed.

As an adult, I've learned it's way more common than I thought it was. I thought I was the only one. I know a couple who both had this experience as kids and it was actually something they bonded over when they started dating because both of them, like me, thought they were alone in it.

Agree that the best course is just to support your kid and provide them with the tools they need to deal with it. I am on the fence about bed alarms, I think it depends what the issue is. Some kids I think are just deep sleepers whose bodies don't wake them up. For me, it often happened to me when I was half awake, but it's like my brain couldn't get my body to move to go to the bathroom. It just took me time to listen to the voice in my head saying "to to the bathroom." I actually also have this problem when I'm awake and will delay using the bathroom longer than I should because it's just hard to get myself to actually do it. I've talked to a neurologist about it and he said that sometimes people with ADHD experience this, a side effect of the hyper fixation, distractibility, or procrastination issues that people with ADHD deal with. I've never been formally tested for ADHD but that could be it. Anyway, I actually think a bedwetting alarm might have helped me for this reason -- just something to jolt me into getting up.

[Anonymous]

Makes sense. My adhd child seems to think this way. She always says to me too he wasn’t thinking about until it was too late and the bed is wet or clothing soaked. It’s the same with everything else. They know what’s the right thing to do but just not doing it till it’s too late

[Anonymous]

Runs in our family, but only one of my kids has had issues (the others are all cousins). My youngest is nine and still wears goodnites, but I don’t think they have been wet in a long time. With it being so hot, he drinks a ton in the summer, so we’ll wait to try regular underwear again once summer is over.

He would rather wear the goodnite and not have to worry about it. That’s fine with us, I don’t think stress over this issue is helpful. Some of his cousins were 13/14 before they stopped. OTOH my middle kid night-trained herself by 2.5. I think there is a huge range of normal