Accept lavish trip from a college roommate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:D1 athletes don't get 3 months off in the summer. That doesn't make sense. They still train, practice, etc...

Yes, this. Even my D3 athlete was expected to play over the summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:D1 athletes don't get 3 months off in the summer. That doesn't make sense. They still train, practice, etc...

Wrong. The best player and those with wealthy parents that give money to the athletic program are treated differently. There is no such thing as equal treatment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:D1 athletes don't get 3 months off in the summer. That doesn't make sense. They still train, practice, etc...

Yes, this. Even my D3 athlete was expected to play over the summer.

My DS is an athlete at CMU, and he is doing his internship this summer. He is not playing this summer.

[Anonymous]

I accepted a trip like this when I was in college. Roommates parents were affluent and I was FGLI. We wanted to travel together and they didn’t want her to stay in hostels (my budget) so they paid for all our hotels across 5 EU countries and lent us a car (they had a home in Germany). It was quite a memorable trip for me, and I was grateful for the parents generosity.

As an UMC parent of a college kid, I would consider paying it forward if the opportunity arose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS has just finished his first year as a D1 athlete at an Ivy, and he is the best player on the team. His roommate is a walk-on to the team because his parents gave a 20M+ gift to the athletic department. DS's roommate invited DS to travel with him to Europe and South America for three months during the summer with him and his girlfriend and his sister. The roommate will take care of all expenses, such as staying at expensive hotels, and doing expensive things. The roommate also promises DS that his parents will get an internship for DS next summer. I know this means nothing to rich people, but we are not. I also said to DS that he needs to be very careful about accepting these things, because people don't generally do something nice for you, unless they want something from you as well. Am I overthinking about it? I know I can't stop DS from accepting this lavish trip, but should I worry? TIA.

Is he interested in the sister at all? Maybe the sister likes him and begged the roommate to bring him along their trip.

I would be worry too and would have a serious talk with him about Safety abroad and assure him he can come home anytime during the trip. I would also ask for the roommate's information, address, phone number and parents information and have my DS to share ours with them as well.

My friend's daughter went to Europe for the summer with her rich friend, they traveled all Europe and all expenses were paid by the family. She was their "guest".

[Anonymous]

I don't think the trip is that big a deal, but that internship could be valuable. This seems to be how a lot of people get internships in college by knowing somebody. If the internship is quality, have DS go on the trip and be a great travel buddy and get that internship next summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nice troll post.

Sure, let your kid go for the full 3 months. He’ll probably fall in love with a Brazilian beauty, drop out of school, and spend the rest of his life being happy in South America.

No! He's supposed to fall in love with the rich guy's sister. So rich guy's gf and sister stop doing "sleepovers" with each other.

I like this.
And then rich guy gets in trouble and poor guy takes the fall like every new england prep school story or the Talented Mr Ripley or Brideshead Revisited. They always sneer on the poors in the end. Watch out OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nice troll post.

Sure, let your kid go for the full 3 months. He’ll probably fall in love with a Brazilian beauty, drop out of school, and spend the rest of his life being happy in South America.

No! He's supposed to fall in love with the rich guy's sister. So rich guy's gf and sister stop doing "sleepovers" with each other.

I like this.
And then rich guy gets in trouble and poor guy takes the fall like every new england prep school story or the Talented Mr Ripley or Brideshead Revisited. They always sneer on the poors in the end. Watch out OP!

NP-This was my immediate thought as well. People who pay 20 mil to get their kid on a sports team he doesn't belong in are something else. I'd be a little weary of their morals/ethics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think the trip is that big a deal, but that internship could be valuable. This seems to be how a lot of people get internships in college by knowing somebody. If the internship is quality, have DS go on the trip and be a great travel buddy and get that internship next summer.

^This. Keep a tight relationship with the roommate will be very important to OP’s DS. In today’s economy, it is very important that who you know or who knows you. My DS graduated in summer 2024, and secured a very good paying job, 130K, because his best friend’s father was the hiring manager. They picked him over folks from Ivies, Duke, and UVA because he was the hiring manager’s son best friend.

Rich people also want to hang out with talented people. They are also very selective in who they want to be friends with because everyone wants something from them. OP’s kid must be a very kind and honest person to his roommate to reap those rewards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS has just finished his first year as a D1 athlete at an Ivy, and he is the best player on the team.

😂😂🙄🙄

Nice try.

Author?

You just know she drops all these details about her imaginary son into every conversation she has. Even the cat knows she's full of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS has just finished his first year as a D1 athlete at an Ivy, and he is the best player on the team.

😂😂🙄🙄

Nice try.

Author?

You just know she drops all these details about her imaginary son into every conversation she has. Even the cat knows she's full of it.

Trigger much? Are you jealous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS has just finished his first year as a D1 athlete at an Ivy, and he is the best player on the team.

😂😂🙄🙄

Nice try.

Author?

She’s posted this before on this site. Boy is she bored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:D1 athletes don't get 3 months off in the summer. That doesn't make sense. They still train, practice, etc...

Yes, this. Even my D3 athlete was expected to play over the summer.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:D1 athletes don't get 3 months off in the summer. That doesn't make sense. They still train, practice, etc...

Yes, this. Even my D3 athlete was expected to play over the summer.

My DS is an athlete at CMU, and he is doing his internship this summer. He is not playing this summer.

This is rare.

Your son is not a freshman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:D1 athletes don't get 3 months off in the summer. That doesn't make sense. They still train, practice, etc...

Yes, this. Even my D3 athlete was expected to play over the summer.

My DS is an athlete at CMU, and he is doing his internship this summer. He is not playing this summer.

This is rare.

Your son is not a freshman

Yee, he is a freshman. DCUM people are absolutely clueless.