Gravestone plaque ideas/ alienation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like
Rest in Peace
if you need anything

- the person who started the thread about going to the funeral of someone who sexually abused them

Thank you for your input. The reason for the alienation isn't horrific, as yours is. It's more generational dysfunction, misunderstandings and stubborness all around. I am merely an advisor to the person who loved the deceased man and who is commissioning the plaque, which will be on his grave. We came up with:

Larlo Green (dates)
Devoted partner -friend insists on this (different words, but basically this.)
Talented Musician -similar to this, in that it describes his passion and gift
Forever with family - that is my suggestion, but friend says no.

I say you can't mention the romantic relationship without acknowledging his family.

It’s never misunderstandings. That’s an excuse.

It wasn't abuse, though. In other words, if there were more time things could've been resolved.

[Anonymous]

Is the "devoted partner" the decision maker? Is there any communication with the estranged family? It sounds like a very sad situation. If specifically naming other family roles doesn't feel quite right, perhaps a poem or lyric about future love might be appropriate? Something like:


Be still.
Close your eyes.
Breathe.
Listen for my footfall in your heart.
I am not gone but merely walk within you
(The Smoke Jumper, Nicholas Evans)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like and used:

Gone but not forgotten

I'll recommend this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like
Rest in Peace
if you need anything

- the person who started the thread about going to the funeral of someone who sexually abused them

Thank you for your input. The reason for the alienation isn't horrific, as yours is. It's more generational dysfunction, misunderstandings and stubborness all around. I am merely an advisor to the person who loved the deceased man and who is commissioning the plaque, which will be on his grave. We came up with:

Larlo Green (dates)
Devoted partner -friend insists on this (different words, but basically this.)
Talented Musician -similar to this, in that it describes his passion and gift
Forever with family - that is my suggestion, but friend says no.

I say you can't mention the romantic relationship without acknowledging his family.

It’s never misunderstandings. That’s an excuse.

It wasn't abuse, though. In other words, if there were more time things could've been resolved.

Its not your family, so I would butt out of suggestions like that. Why do you need so much on a gravestone anyhow?

[Anonymous]

James Doe
1/1/57-5/5/25
"Forever in tune with our hearts"
OR
"In every note, a part of them remains."

Leave it vague.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the "devoted partner" the decision maker? Is there any communication with the estranged family? It sounds like a very sad situation. If specifically naming other family roles doesn't feel quite right, perhaps a poem or lyric about future love might be appropriate? Something like:


Be still.
Close your eyes.
Breathe.
Listen for my footfall in your heart.
I am not gone but merely walk within you
(The Smoke Jumper, Nicholas Evans)


This is nice, thanks. The partner is the decision maker and is paying for the plaque. His 2 siblings are involved and support my friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like
Rest in Peace
if you need anything

- the person who started the thread about going to the funeral of someone who sexually abused them

Thank you for your input. The reason for the alienation isn't horrific, as yours is. It's more generational dysfunction, misunderstandings and stubborness all around. I am merely an advisor to the person who loved the deceased man and who is commissioning the plaque, which will be on his grave. We came up with:

Larlo Green (dates)
Devoted partner -friend insists on this (different words, but basically this.)
Talented Musician -similar to this, in that it describes his passion and gift
Forever with family - that is my suggestion, but friend says no.

I say you can't mention the romantic relationship without acknowledging his family.

It’s never misunderstandings. That’s an excuse.

It wasn't abuse, though. In other words, if there were more time things could've been resolved.

Its not your family, so I would butt out of suggestions like that. Why do you need so much on a gravestone anyhow?

My friend asked for my help. I am attempting to help. They want it short, like I posted as example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like
Rest in Peace
if you need anything

- the person who started the thread about going to the funeral of someone who sexually abused them

Thank you for your input. The reason for the alienation isn't horrific, as yours is. It's more generational dysfunction, misunderstandings and stubborness all around. I am merely an advisor to the person who loved the deceased man and who is commissioning the plaque, which will be on his grave. We came up with:

Larlo Green (dates)
Devoted partner -friend insists on this (different words, but basically this.)
Talented Musician -similar to this, in that it describes his passion and gift
Forever with family - that is my suggestion, but friend says no.

I say you can't mention the romantic relationship without acknowledging his family.

It’s never misunderstandings. That’s an excuse.

It wasn't abuse, though. In other words, if there were more time things could've been resolved.

Its not your family, so I would butt out of suggestions like that. Why do you need so much on a gravestone anyhow?

Are you the cemetery police

OP has obviously been invited into the process. Some people like just names and dates, and others a verse or two, and others are very elaborate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like
Rest in Peace
if you need anything

- the person who started the thread about going to the funeral of someone who sexually abused them

Thank you for your input. The reason for the alienation isn't horrific, as yours is. It's more generational dysfunction, misunderstandings and stubborness all around. I am merely an advisor to the person who loved the deceased man and who is commissioning the plaque, which will be on his grave. We came up with:

Larlo Green (dates)
Devoted partner -friend insists on this (different words, but basically this.)
Talented Musician -similar to this, in that it describes his passion and gift
Forever with family - that is my suggestion, but friend says no.

I say you can't mention the romantic relationship without acknowledging his family.

It’s never misunderstandings. That’s an excuse.

It wasn't abuse, though. In other words, if there were more time things could've been resolved.

Its not your family, so I would butt out of suggestions like that. Why do you need so much on a gravestone anyhow?

Are you the cemetery police

OP has obviously been invited into the process. Some people like just names and dates, and others a verse or two, and others are very elaborate.

If you follow the thread, OP says their friend asked them for suggestions. He gave them the family wording suggestion and they told him they didn’t like that part. Yet he still continues to try to push that family should be somehow included on the inscription.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like
Rest in Peace
if you need anything

- the person who started the thread about going to the funeral of someone who sexually abused them

Thank you for your input. The reason for the alienation isn't horrific, as yours is. It's more generational dysfunction, misunderstandings and stubborness all around. I am merely an advisor to the person who loved the deceased man and who is commissioning the plaque, which will be on his grave. We came up with:

Larlo Green (dates)
Devoted partner -friend insists on this (different words, but basically this.)
Talented Musician -similar to this, in that it describes his passion and gift
Forever with family - that is my suggestion, but friend says no.

I say you can't mention the romantic relationship without acknowledging his family.

It’s never misunderstandings. That’s an excuse.

It wasn't abuse, though. In other words, if there were more time things could've been resolved.

Its not your family, so I would butt out of suggestions like that. Why do you need so much on a gravestone anyhow?

Are you the cemetery police

OP has obviously been invited into the process. Some people like just names and dates, and others a verse or two, and others are very elaborate.

If you follow the thread, OP says their friend asked them for suggestions. He gave them the family wording suggestion and they told him they didn’t like that part. Yet he still continues to try to push that family should be somehow included on the inscription.

Because it is a big family and he was close with most of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:James Doe
1/1/57-5/5/25
"Forever in tune with our hearts"
OR
"In every note, a part of them remains."

Leave it vague.

I think these are perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:James Doe
1/1/57-5/5/25
"Forever in tune with our hearts"
OR
"In every note, a part of them remains."

Leave it vague.

I think these are perfect.

The Song Is Ended, but The Melody Lingers On

That's an Irving Berlin song, and it's a theme across his work.

[Anonymous]

I think you may be spending too much energy on this. You aren’t the ringleader of this circus. You gave your friend a suggestion and now you can move on.

[Anonymous]

They asked for your advice.
You gave it.
They rejected it.
You can be done now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They asked for your advice.
You gave it.
They rejected it.
You can be done now.

This.