If an ex died and you were at the funeral, did you cry?

[Anonymous]

People cry or not for various reasons. Some are not public cryers.

[Anonymous]

I did not cry at the funeral. However, it was very traumatic because he died by suicide. I will never forget seeing so many of his family members sobbing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure I would have any tears..but I expect people who do not know my situation would judge me for not shedding tears.

I cried for DC. Losing a parent —even an extremely dysfunctional one— is life altering.

Same. When my ex-husband passed, I grieved for our children. Plus, our youngest found him dead, compounding the grief. I attended the funeral and wrote a note in the program thanking him for loving our children and being a good dad. Again, that was for the kids. He was a terrible husband but a good father.

[Anonymous]

I would go. I'd sit in the back unless my kids wanted me near them. It's really about supporting them and not about my own feelings. My former MIL isn't going to make it into 2026; she was a huge part of my life for 2 decades. I don't know if I'd attend her funeral.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neighbors ex husband went to her funeral together with his new wife, also AP before he married her, and the new kid he had with affair partner. Of course to support the kids he had with the neighbor. In their 70s

I don’t think anyone cried.

So tacky to bring the AP, unless he needed a nursemaid.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what I would do. This is an interesting thought experiment. Right now XH is the lowest person I can think of and I wouldn’t even want to attend and would not because his new partner would be there.

[Anonymous]

Ex did die. I was there for DC and ex's family. He had mistreated us all.
I would have put him in a jar without a funeral, but his mother went all out.
His sister is about to die. I may not go. I will give my young child an option not to go.
I don't want to send my kid to another all out funeral. I think they even did gofundme for ex after spending their high salaries on shopping for the last 30 years.
The show is all for the mother and I want no part of it.

[Anonymous]

As a man I would be extremely sad about the death of anyone I was once in love with. My first girlfriend, my highschool girlfriend, my first wife or my second wife. That sincere bond you once had is part of who you will always be.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t judge you at all. Don’t let that be a reason to hold you back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbors ex husband went to her funeral together with his new wife, also AP before he married her, and the new kid he had with affair partner. Of course to support the kids he had with the neighbor. In their 70s

I don’t think anyone cried.

So tacky to bring the AP, unless he needed a nursemaid.

That was not clear. Sorry

He left the neighbor because he had an AP, which became his wife, then he had an additional kid with wife 2 (former AP).

He went to the funeral of wife 1 together with wife 2 (former AP).

[Anonymous]

It's hard to say. I haven't cried at some funerals, but have gotten hysterical about the dog's death and during some movies (Lion, Dead Poets' Society).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh gosh I’d never go as it would be wildly inappropriate to dance a jig on his coffin- and that’s what the demise would require of me. Mine is abusive and awful and I wouldn’t even pretend to honor him. I

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not cry at the funeral. However, it was very traumatic because he died by suicide. I will never forget seeing so many of his family members sobbing.

I'm sorry. If I may ask:
Did he have mental illness and fell apart without your support?
or did his misdeeds catch up with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neighbors ex husband went to her funeral together with his new wife, also AP before he married her, and the new kid he had with affair partner. Of course to support the kids he had with the neighbor. In their 70s

I don’t think anyone cried.

So tacky to bring the AP, unless he needed a nursemaid.

That was not clear. Sorry

He left the neighbor because he had an AP, which became his wife, then he had an additional kid with wife 2 (former AP).

He went to the funeral of wife 1 together with wife 2 (former AP).

Gross- his children or some other relatives should have forbade this. Tacky, disrespectful and selfish

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would cry. He's a great person.