PSA: If you left the pots, pans, and kitchen knives, YOU HAVE NOT DONE THE DISHES.

[Anonymous]

Hello -- I believe I married all of your spouses.

1. No, a pot that contained only pasta water does not need to "soak" overnight.

2. The larger utensils actually DO fit in the dishwasher -- on the third top rack that has been there since we bought this dishwasher three years ago.

3. The collander goes in the same cupboard as the pots. It has always been kept there. Since we moved here in 2015. Always. Same cupboard. That one. With the pots.

4. You can put the knives in the dishwasher if you must, but honestly, it takes less than 60 seconds to wipe the blade with the sponge, rinse, and dry as you walk toward the knife drawer to put it away.

No, the one to the right. That's the knife drawer. The one with the knives in it.

Love you.

[Anonymous]

These are also my two teens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also wipe the kitchen down.

+1000. If there are spills on the counter, food or food wrappers out, etc, you aren't done.

And don’t you dare say that the stove/counter/sink/drain/whatever only needs to be wiped down every other night…which just happens to be always the day opposite of when you’re responsible for cleaning the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who says “you are high strung” or puts this back on you also leaves the pots in the sink for their partner to clean in the morning. It’s gaslighting. It will just get worse and eventually these seemingly small “misunderstandings” will become big resentments. It’s an intentional choice to not finish cleaning and do their part because well, they don’t feel they need to because you will. Don’t sweep it under the rug.

[Anonymous]

“A confusing Airbnb that he’s never lived in.” I am dying—too funny!

[Anonymous]

We all grow up in different households who do things different - it's about compromise. DH used to be furious with me for leaving dishes to dry after washing. In his house, you washed, dried, and put away. I am never going to dry dishes, that is not worth my time when the air does a perfectly fine job. If he needs them to be away, right after washing, he can dry them.

We also load the dishwasher very differently. Used to make me crazy (and I made him crazy), but I've let it go - if he feels the need to redo how I've loaded the dishwasher, have at it, or, do the dishes yourself. I've let go of how he does it, and if things need to go through again, I don't care

[Anonymous]

Nah, scrubbing cast iron and very dirty/caked on pots is a man’s job because it requires a lot of elbow grease. I always do the dishes but also almost always leave the heavy pots, pans, griddle etc to DH. He is so much stronger and gets all the baked on grease off much more easily than I do.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dishwasher. Dull knives sane life

+1000

We put our fancy knives and pots and pans in the dishwasher and it is so worth the cost of having them sharpened and/or replacing them a year or so sooner. Seriously life changing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agreed, of course.

But sometimes people are weird about dishes. My spouse gets mad if I do an entire kitchen full of dishes, if there are a few items on the drying rack and I don't first put those away before putting other dishes to dry over there. Most of the time it's an accident -- I get going doing dishes and loading the dishwasher and then move to the dishes that need to be hand washed and don't realize there's 3-4 items on the drying rack. Rather than stop what I'm doing, dry my hands, and put those items away before going back and finishing the dishes, I just put the clean, wet dishes in the rack and figure those 304 items will dry again and be put away when the pots and pans are dry.

He freaks out and claims that what I'm doing is not *really* doing the dishes because I'm neglecting to put away like two knives and cutting board first. I disagree.

Sometimes people are weird about this stuff.

I have always refused to have a drying rack. I think it's kind of gross and super lazy. Dry the stuff and put it away. It's really not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH doesn’t wash the “weird” stuff like cheese graters or water bottle lids and will do everything else and leave those at the bottom of the sink like I won’t notice.

He also doesn’t put away “weird” stuff- like anything that he doesn’t interact with daily. We’ve lived with the same kitchen for 12 years but he’s acts like it’s a confusing Airbnb that he’s never cooked in. The funny part is that he truly thinks I don’t notice. How can a man who runs a bajillion dollar P&L be so dumb?

Both of those things go in the dishwasher...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hello -- I believe I married all of your spouses.

1. No, a pot that contained only pasta water does not need to "soak" overnight.

2. The larger utensils actually DO fit in the dishwasher -- on the third top rack that has been there since we bought this dishwasher three years ago.

3. The collander goes in the same cupboard as the pots. It has always been kept there. Since we moved here in 2015. Always. Same cupboard. That one. With the pots.

4. You can put the knives in the dishwasher if you must, but honestly, it takes less than 60 seconds to wipe the blade with the sponge, rinse, and dry as you walk toward the knife drawer to put it away.

No, the one to the right. That's the knife drawer. The one with the knives in it.

Love you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah, scrubbing cast iron and very dirty/caked on pots is a man’s job because it requires a lot of elbow grease. I always do the dishes but also almost always leave the heavy pots, pans, griddle etc to DH. He is so much stronger and gets all the baked on grease off much more easily than I do.

Obviously cast iron doesn't go in the dishwasher but everything else does. And no, it doesn't need to be cleaned first. Buy a good dishwasher. It'll be worth it.

[Anonymous]

I’ve always put everything in the dishwasher including my China (on the rare occasion I use it) and knives. I would do this whether married or not. I do not understand the people who wash stuff by hand.

[Anonymous]

This is so typical, had me wondering what other household tasks the OP's DH leaves incomplete.