Subordinates possibly having an affair?

[Anonymous]

You do nothing. You don’t even know if anything has happened or will happen. People can flirt and not blow up their lives.

[Anonymous]

You used two words - “suspect” and “possibly” so you have no proof. MYOB.

[Anonymous]

I would do nothing. Accusing people of having an affair is its own variety of sexual harassment.

[Anonymous]

What kind of answer are you looking for, OP? You sound immature. Stop obsessing over the private lives of colleagues.

[Anonymous]

If you really feel compelled to say something, you could approach it from the “people are talking” angle and make it seem like you are protecting them. Just to one of course, probably the one of the same sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that absent a performance issue, and without any direct knowledge of what is going on, there isn’t much for you to do at the moment. it may be that they just have chemistry; it may be that they will step back from the brink; it may be one of the great love stories. No way to know. In the near term, it’s probably just helping their performance, so get as much out of them as you can before the explosion. lol

This. Mind your own business. Having chemistry is not a crime and adults will figure out what to do with it.

[Anonymous]

I would not do anything. I must wonder if I am too close to the subordinate if I have views on how this particular relationship would affect them emotionally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You do nothing. As long as their work is satisfactory, it’s not your business.

OP, I don’t trust posts written in this fashion.

What fashion? And why don’t you trust?

[Anonymous]

Not I, but I think lots of people wouldn't have spouses if they didn't meet them at work.

[Anonymous]

Someone is jealous. Sorry the one you're pining for chose someone else.

[Anonymous]

I'd avoid discussing personal matters. But if a subordinate seems upset, offer support.

[Anonymous]

MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your company policy about office romance? I might quickly institute a policy if you don’t already have one, and I would have a training on it for everyone asap.

I would not lose respect for either of them. You never know what’s going on inside someone’s marriage. Also, people are fallible.

This is what I would do as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your organization have rules about fraternization? Can coworkers "date"?
If not post the rules.

This. Have HR send around the employee handbook and in the email have a short table of contents that includes Romatic Relationships.

No one wants to be in the middle of a working team when two are banging each other.

And yes the likely outcome is they stop or don’t start or one leaves so they can continue.

[Anonymous]

wtf does OP know? She sees a male and female at work cracking jokes and immediately thinks they’re banging? Ugh.