Update on meddling MIL wedding planning

[Anonymous]

I would have guessed you were 21 by your post.

[Anonymous]

Take it to Reddit. This isn’t that kind of website.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take it to Reddit. This isn’t that kind of website.

I was going to ask if this was swiped from Reddit. Where’s the wedding that you’re worried about monsoon season?

[Anonymous]

1. This is DCUM. Use full sentences, and write well. We deserve that much of your time.

2. Do not marry this man unless he acknowledges his mother has mentally disturbed and should be kept away from your lives going forward.

3. Remember that there is a genetic component to personality disorders. You could have children with personality disorders if you marry this person.

[Anonymous]

You are immature and the whole lot of likely have mental issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to learn English. This is America.

And you need to pick your own berries, change your own grandpas's diapers, slaughter your own chickens, and build your own damn houses and roads.

[Anonymous]

Eff the Jordan Almonds and foot fractures. Both sets of parents are the type of people you simply inform of your nuptials AFTER the fact.

[Anonymous]

You two aren't teens dependent on parents getting an arranged marriage, you are grown, employed adults who are making a commitment to each other. You get to make the decisions, if either side of parents want to contribute or have any suggestions, they can let you know but its your choice if you accept it or not. This is the time to respectfully establish your boundaries as both parties sound troublesome.

[Anonymous]

Your future MIL lunged and screamed AT YOUR MOTHER. Absolutely zero respect for a stranger her own age. Do you see how by that scale, you are dirt under her feet? When you marry someone, you really marry their family. Unless you have prior experience expatriating yourself (as in, have actually done it, not some daydreams fantasy that’s never going to happen) or otherwise completely relocating to somewhere faraway, you are dooming yourself to unhappiness. Aren’t you a catch? You can find someone else. Or are you rushing in bc you’re worried about fertility due to your age?

[Anonymous]

Elope and move a great distance away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to learn English. This is America.

And you need to pick your own berries, change your own grandpas's diapers, slaughter your own chickens, and build your own damn houses and roads.

I’ve done all those things AND I speak English. You should try it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Elope and move a great distance away.

This. If you are already living in the US elope and forget about all the wedding planning if you still want to marry this guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Learn to write coherently and grow up.

While this is a bit harsh, I have to agree that I had a hard time reading this post. 😬

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Short recap-im 32F engaged to wonderful 36M. My parents wanted to pay for wedding (cultural issue not financial) Talked to htb, told him it's not going to work if his mama don't stop butting in.Orig his parents said they had 75 people & she NEEDED Aug wedding (monsoon season, Temps >125) . Asked her for list, she told us 45 people. Asked her for email & addr, she gave me 25 people NOT couples & incled my parents! me & htb picked 5/31 & sent out save the date.11 people on his side said they are excited & definitely coming. Then his mom calls my mom. Invites my parents to brunch.she told my parents she got save the date & wanted to contribute. My parents are calm & respectful. His mom starts with Aug wedding & jumps up at table & starts screaming at my mom. I actually thing she did not want to pay the bill. 1st time she has ever invited my parents anywhere & said, "my treat". Oh & she is going to buy a bag of Jordan almonds & put them in gauze bags. My mom jumps up when his mom lunges toward her & bangs her foot.Fractured foot bone, dr bills & med equipment & drugs, over $1k so far. My parents say, F them find someone else, they are mental. I decided I want htb & we went to marriage counseling. So wedding will be May. Mom says keep $$ separate & see what happens.

Where there are 3 minutes I will never get back. What did I just read?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Short recap-im 32F engaged to wonderful 36M. My parents wanted to pay for wedding (cultural issue not financial) Talked to htb, told him it's not going to work if his mama don't stop butting in.Orig his parents said they had 75 people & she NEEDED Aug wedding (monsoon season, Temps >125) . Asked her for list, she told us 45 people. Asked her for email & addr, she gave me 25 people NOT couples & incled my parents! me & htb picked 5/31 & sent out save the date.11 people on his side said they are excited & definitely coming. Then his mom calls my mom. Invites my parents to brunch.she told my parents she got save the date & wanted to contribute. My parents are calm & respectful. His mom starts with Aug wedding & jumps up at table & starts screaming at my mom. I actually thing she did not want to pay the bill. 1st time she has ever invited my parents anywhere & said, "my treat". Oh & she is going to buy a bag of Jordan almonds & put them in gauze bags. My mom jumps up when his mom lunges toward her & bangs her foot.Fractured foot bone, dr bills & med equipment & drugs, over $1k so far. My parents say, F them find someone else, they are mental. I decided I want htb & we went to marriage counseling. So wedding will be May. Mom says keep $$ separate & see what happens.

Where there are 3 minutes I will never get back. What did I just read?

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