Apparently it’s okay to take up two parking spots to bottle feed a baby

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Next time, speak up and tell her that you'd like to park there. But you acted like a doormat and decided it's easier to express your anger to us who have nothing to do with this situation,

You’re jumping to a lot of conclusions Pp and frankly you’re also rude. I have a feeling it gives you some weird satisfaction to call people a doormat. You feel superior for taking other people down.. disgusting

You know nothing about me. But these daily complaints to the larger audience over something that could have been addressed with the offender in person in less than 20 seconds are really getting on my nerves. If you don't care enough to take care of your own perceived grievances, why should I?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What she did was rude, but I'm more concerned that you are still so upset about it that you felt the need to go to the appointment, then drive home, then post about it on this board, then continually defend your position.

That's not a healthy psychological response to inconvenience.

It’s a parenting forum so it is relevant. There are posts everyday about entitlement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Next time, speak up and tell her that you'd like to park there. But you acted like a doormat and decided it's easier to express your anger to us who have nothing to do with this situation,

Op here. I did by beeping and she wasn’t happy which is proof she was planning on standing there with the door open for a long time. It’s so rude.

That's not what the horn is for. I would be unhappy if someone honked at me and my baby too. You are both rude.

[Anonymous]

This stuff happens. I'm sure it wasn't the only available spot when the situation began. There was no cause to beep at her, imo. If you needed to tell her it was the last spot, you could have rolled down your window and said "could I squeeze in there? This is the only spot."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was the mom, I would have just gotten in the other side of the car and sat in the back seat with the kid. It was rude to take up two parking spots when there was limited parking. Its fine if she didn't notice you waiting, but once she did she should have walked around and gotten in the other door of her car to finish feeding the baby.

I have breastfed lots of babies in front seat of my car. Its totally doable.

You're assuming that she didn't have another child in a carseat on the other side. Since she was parked outside an OT practice it seems likely there were there for another child's therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This stuff happens. I'm sure it wasn't the only available spot when the situation began. There was no cause to beep at her, imo. If you needed to tell her it was the last spot, you could have rolled down your window and said "could I squeeze in there? This is the only spot."

Op here. Perhaps but now maybe she’ll think twice before she decides to take up two spots next time. I have multiple kids and would never do that. It’s so rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What she did was rude, but I'm more concerned that you are still so upset about it that you felt the need to go to the appointment, then drive home, then post about it on this board, then continually defend your position.

That's not a healthy psychological response to inconvenience.

I have a hard time wrapping my head around the motivations to this. Is it loneliness? There are posts like this occasionally and they often read like a troll. But the repeated responses on this specific thread feel real.

[Anonymous]

That’s odd. It would be much more comfortable to sit inside the car and hold the baby while bottle feeding than to have the baby strapped into the car and have to stand outside, holding the bottle for the baby through the open door.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am confused. Are you saying she should have closed her door so you could park next to her? Because I agree that would be ideal, or that she should have driven to a whole entire other location because that is ridiculous.

That’s what she wanted Pp. She didn’t want to close the door otherwise she wouldn’t have held up the bottle and rolled her eyes at OP.

Who wanted you need to use a noun before the pronoun.

This doesn’t even make any sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like this mom put the baby in the carseat, and then realized he was hungry. Maybe she thought she had enough time to get him home first, but her older kid's therapy session ran long, or getting them all in the car took longer, so she decided to quickly feed the kid. Or maybe the kid was asleep, and then woke up starving. Mom didn't look around and realize there was only one empty space, or maybe when she started there were other empty spaces, or maybe the baby was really upset and she was frazzled, so she gave him a bottle, which of course makes sense because babies have the right to eat wherever they happen to be.

Yes, it wasn't ideal but once she started, she should be allowed to finish. When someone started honking at her, she held up her bottle to show what she was doing and that it wouldn't take long.

OP didn't plan her time well either. Unless this was her first time, she knew the parking lot was small and that sometimes one needs to wait a few moments for a space. Or maybe, like the first mom, she hadn't noticed that. She could have driven over to the bank or the gas station too. It's too bad she was a little late for OT, but that's not an emergency.

Honking was just stupid though. Because honking at a child has never made them move faster in the history of the world.

Did you need to add whole narrative? She should have closed her door. Even if X,Y or Z happened.

[Anonymous]

Was it really the ONLY spot, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What she did was rude, but I'm more concerned that you are still so upset about it that you felt the need to go to the appointment, then drive home, then post about it on this board, then continually defend your position.

That's not a healthy psychological response to inconvenience.

This. I say this knowing how condescending it may sound: you need to calm down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This stuff happens. I'm sure it wasn't the only available spot when the situation began. There was no cause to beep at her, imo. If you needed to tell her it was the last spot, you could have rolled down your window and said "could I squeeze in there? This is the only spot."

Op here. Perhaps but now maybe she’ll think twice before she decides to take up two spots next time. I have multiple kids and would never do that. It’s so rude.

No, being beeped at by a rude woman in a parking lot (and yes, you were rude too) is unlikely to change any of her long term decision making. You achieved nothing but demonstrating boorish behavior for your kids.

[Anonymous]

I would have been pissed too OP. I can’t stand people who are so inconsiderate, which the bottle feeder was. I wouldn’t have honked, but I would definitely have complained to my husband later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s odd. It would be much more comfortable to sit inside the car and hold the baby while bottle feeding than to have the baby strapped into the car and have to stand outside, holding the bottle for the baby through the open door.

Op here. She saw that I was waiting and didn’t move. Eventually I beeped. It was a weird angle. I guess I could have yelled across the parking lot but at that moment beeping was the easier way to ask to pull in.