My money is my money, and your money is my money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason women feel this way deep in their bones, and it makes perfect sense and should never be questioned; the vast majority of men are not capable of being loving, respectful partners.

If a woman doesn’t insist on an “unfair” financial arrangement in marriage, she will have an “unfair” marriage in which she is exploited.

A lot of very beaten down women on this board who believed a lie about the hearts of men. Men aren’t bad, but they are terminally selfish, and if you as a woman are not benefiting from their selfishness indirectly (through their income), then you are almost certainly being exploited in marriage.

You want all the money but men are the ones that are selfish?

She doesn’t want all the money. She just doesn’t want poverty when he leaves and starts a new family when they’re both 46.

Sorry, this happens all the time.

Meh. Women initiate 3/4 of all divorces. So it's usually she doesn't want poverty when she decides he's emotionally unavailable or whatever and cheats and leaves. That's far more likely than the stereotype you're perpetuating.

Ah yes. Women initiating divorce is somehow mens fault even though lesbians have the highest divorce rate out of any type of couple.

Guess what type of couple has the lowest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you okay, OP? I hope you are getting the help that you need.

-Wife who makes 3x as much as her husband.

Also … wife who will pay alimony to her H if he quits his job and lives on a beach with his mistress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason women feel this way deep in their bones, and it makes perfect sense and should never be questioned; the vast majority of men are not capable of being loving, respectful partners.

If a woman doesn’t insist on an “unfair” financial arrangement in marriage, she will have an “unfair” marriage in which she is exploited.

A lot of very beaten down women on this board who believed a lie about the hearts of men. Men aren’t bad, but they are terminally selfish, and if you as a woman are not benefiting from their selfishness indirectly (through their income), then you are almost certainly being exploited in marriage.

I am very grateful I learned this lesson at a young age, observing very clearly that my dad is "terminally selfish," and I've acted accordingly throughout my life. I still have a lot of love for my dad and am grateful for what he provided for our family, but I would never want to walk in my mom's shoes. DH is pretty great, but he would've exploited me in various ways if I were like my mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason women feel this way deep in their bones, and it makes perfect sense and should never be questioned; the vast majority of men are not capable of being loving, respectful partners.

If a woman doesn’t insist on an “unfair” financial arrangement in marriage, she will have an “unfair” marriage in which she is exploited.

A lot of very beaten down women on this board who believed a lie about the hearts of men. Men aren’t bad, but they are terminally selfish, and if you as a woman are not benefiting from their selfishness indirectly (through their income), then you are almost certainly being exploited in marriage.

I am very grateful I learned this lesson at a young age, observing very clearly that my dad is "terminally selfish," and I've acted accordingly throughout my life. I still have a lot of love for my dad and am grateful for what he provided for our family, but I would never want to walk in my mom's shoes. DH is pretty great, but he would've exploited me in various ways if I were like my mom.

How is your DH great if he would have exploited you?

[Anonymous]

ITT: women twisting themselves into contorted logic puzzles to intellectualize and justify their rank selfishness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a reason women feel this way deep in their bones, and it makes perfect sense and should never be questioned; the vast majority of men are not capable of being loving, respectful partners.

If a woman doesn’t insist on an “unfair” financial arrangement in marriage, she will have an “unfair” marriage in which she is exploited.

A lot of very beaten down women on this board who believed a lie about the hearts of men. Men aren’t bad, but they are terminally selfish, and if you as a woman are not benefiting from their selfishness indirectly (through their income), then you are almost certainly being exploited in marriage.

All money is joint money with both having full access and a mutually agreed plan on how to earn, save, spend and invest. If you don't agree, don't get married. If both agree, there can be some leisure money for each person each month which they can spend without any discussion.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter who earns more or who earns less, who owns it or who doesn't. However, assets or inheritance acquired before marriage, can be kept separately.

[Anonymous]

Live in Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington, and Wisconsin, where assets acquired during marriage are considered jointly owned by both spouses, regardless of who earned them

[Anonymous]

Most women who make more money than their spouses aren't as generous as most men in similar situation.

[Anonymous]

Married women protect their income from their husbands so he can't spend it on other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you okay, OP? I hope you are getting the help that you need.

-Wife who makes 3x as much as her husband.

I don’t understand this prompt at all. I have three women friends who make much more than spouse. All three now have spouses who do all of the non paid home labor and childcare

I don’t get the concluding (provocative ?) sentence in this write up. At all