That is ridiculous. If I have a kid here, I’m not going to “tell” them not to climb or jump on the couch. I expect someone I invite over to behave like a human, not an animal. It’s your responsibility to teach your kids that, not mine. |
If you expect kids to come over to your house and not have to do anything to let them know what the house specific rules are, I don't know what to tell you. But I don't associate with people who call kids animals for behaving like kids, so probably our paths will never cross |
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I've never had a problem telling kids at my house not to climb or jump on something if it's not allowed.
We even allow some climbing/jumping on our den couch but I will sometimes tell kids not to do it if they are really rowdy or out of control. So it's not even a house rule but more recognizing "oh that kid is going nuts, I need to shut that down." I actually don't think it's the kids who are allowed to jump and climb at home who tend to be the biggest problems. It's the ones who are never allowed to jump or climb at all, even outside, and then get to our house and go insane because they have all this pent up desire to be very physical. |
This is my experience as well. It's like the kids who come over and want to eat all the snacks in my house because their parents don't let them snack at home. In some cases it's the same kids. |
I am the pp who allows climbing and dissembling of couches. I teach my kids that student families have different rules, and you need to follow the rules wherever you go. I teach them to follow their friends’ lead in other houses and ask questions if you’re unsure of rules. Kids are not stupid. They are capable of following different rules in different places. Part of the value of playdates and approves sleepovers is giving kids the chance to truly understand what diversity means and see that everyone lives differently and that that’s ok. It’s good to practice abiding by different rules to be respectful and tolerant. |
I do. They have had no problem understanding that |