If you gave birth to multiples (name question)

[Anonymous]

No matching names or nicknames. Choose 2 names that you like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No matching names or nicknames. Choose 2 names that you like.

We like Ava and Jory.

[Anonymous]

I would keep them the same general style. You’ll be saying them together a lot so make sure that’s easy.

[Anonymous]

You need to decide if you are having a set of twins or if you are having two children that you will treat as individuals.

Many people find the twin matching thing adorable and think they either need to be completely alike or stark opposites.

But that’s not how real humans work. Allow your kids to be individuals with their own personalities, strengths and weaknesses all outside of the fact they were born on the same day as a sibling.

Choosing their names as individuals is the first step.

[Anonymous]

You don't have to follow any rules.

That being said our twins have a similar order of vowels so the names seem to go together but don't match. Unintentional. We just picked names we liked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like all the twins I grew up with (late '70s, early '80s) had very matchy-matchy names. That's definitely not the trend now. I like it when twins at least sound like they came from the same family, but don't have obviously matching names. Some that I've liked in our communities: Peter and Daniel, Luca and Mia, Zion and Isaiah ...

Same! I knew quite a few identical twins with rhyming names and matching outfits - even the B/G twins.

My DH’s brother is 13 months younger him, and at 48 he still complains that they always got matching sleeping bags, coats, shoes, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:People outside of you and your husband really should not have any sway over what you both choose.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a Lawrence and a Peregrine so they have distinct names but their nn are Larry and Perry

Is Perry’s middle name Falcon?

[Anonymous]

I would not theme them or match them (unless you have a pre established pattern with other kids but i assume if you did you would have said that). People tend to lump twins together automatically and it's easier to do that if they're Ava and Aria or whatever. You want to leave them the space to differentiate themselves (if they want to--some twins really like being a set, but non matching names won't prevent that).

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Anonymous wrote:Twins don’t want this. Go with the names you already picked.

One of my teenaged twin daughters recently told me she’s so glad we didn’t give her and her sister “matching” names.

+1 I have twin daughters and they have told me the same. Luckily we never considered matching names for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you make their names complimentary or matching in any way? We are having twins and three grandparents and several random relatives keep saying we must. Like two names from nature or location (Georgia and Brooklyn?), or starting with the same letter and same number of syllables, etc.

So far the only names DH and I have agreed on are both two syllables but start with different letters and aren’t complimentary in any way.

Of all the times to do what you want and ignore everyone else, this is it. I personally dislike matchy-matchy twin names. I know someone who used two names with the same first letter and (maybe because of the specific names she chose?) I think it comes off as trying too hard.

[Anonymous]

We picked two names we liked. Realized they were both French but most people don't make tbd connection. We still like the classic names we chose

[Anonymous]

My twins' names are not at all complementary.

-- They start with different letters
-- They do not rhyme
-- One has four letters and the other has six letters
-- One has a traditional English name and one has an unusual Irish name
-- One has a name easily nicknamed and one does not