How to do/word baby shower invites for two sisters (not all guests know both)

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised two sisters would have first babies 8 weeks apart. That’s pretty neat actually.

I would only invite guests who know both sisters. A family shower and then a friend would throw a friends shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely think you could throw a shower for two sisters and think this is a great idea.

Wording:

Celebrate Mary Kate (due date) & Ashley (due date) with Brunch at Linda’s

(Keep the time short like 12:30-2)

RSVP by (one week ahead and be prepared that you’ll end up calling guests/v few people respond)

If when a guest responds they can ask you about registries

Don’t open gifts. Anyone who brings a gift can leave it aside for the recipient(s) to open later.

OP here. Thank you so much! This is really helpful.

Unfortunately, both sisters have military spouses who are being deployed soon; this is a rare opportunity to get all family members together. (The men won’t be at the shower, but it’s kind of a mini family reunion and a shower weekend, and then both dads ship out.) :(

Do one on Sat and one on Sun, or one Sat brunch and one Sat later (like a tea). Do not combine. If you don’t tell people ahead of time it is combined, they will feel awkward when they show up and find out. And if you tell them before, everyone will feel obligated to buy a gift for both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely think you could throw a shower for two sisters and think this is a great idea.

Wording:

Celebrate Mary Kate (due date) & Ashley (due date) with Brunch at Linda’s

(Keep the time short like 12:30-2)

RSVP by (one week ahead and be prepared that you’ll end up calling guests/v few people respond)

If when a guest responds they can ask you about registries

Don’t open gifts. Anyone who brings a gift can leave it aside for the recipient(s) to open later.

OP here. Thank you so much! This is really helpful.

Unfortunately, both sisters have military spouses who are being deployed soon; this is a rare opportunity to get all family members together. (The men won’t be at the shower, but it’s kind of a mini family reunion and a shower weekend, and then both dads ship out.)

I would not be offended if I received an imviation that was for a joint shower. Also I would appreciate knowing where each mom was registered without having to call, text, or email.

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[Anonymous]

Are both sisters okay with this? Then go for it. But check that they are actually cool with a joint shower. My sister and I had weddings a few months apart, and a relative offered to throw us a joint bridal shower. However, I found the logistics of coordinating a joint shower so stressful (particularly with my sister being a diva) that I bowed out and let it be entirely about her. I had a much smaller shower with just a few friends, which I enjoyed much more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are both sisters okay with this? Then go for it. But check that they are actually cool with a joint shower. My sister and I had weddings a few months apart, and a relative offered to throw us a joint bridal shower. However, I found the logistics of coordinating a joint shower so stressful (particularly with my sister being a diva) that I bowed out and let it be entirely about her. I had a much smaller shower with just a few friends, which I enjoyed much more.

Read the thread.

[Anonymous]

Make the shower for just the family and friends of both mothers. You could include the MILs for each. But no friends or co-workers.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want to ask about a registry, just link both of them. I can figure out who I want to buy for.

[Anonymous]

i agree i'd list both and people will buy accordingly.

i went to a friend's kids baptism-- her twin sister had a kid a few days apart, so they made it a joint baptism (easier for traveling family, only one church service, her parents hosted the event)-- i had never met her sister and hadn't even crossed my mind to get her sister's kid an event yet still glad to be included even if i wasn't part of the overlap group that i'm sure got stuff for both babies

[Anonymous]

Definitely share the registries. A shower is to shower the guest of honor with gifts. No need to be coy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separate showers or keep the guests to only their side family and friends. No in-laws or friends of only 1.

This. It is going to get messy and awkward quickly any other way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Separate showers or keep the guests to only their side family and friends. No in-laws or friends of only 1.

This. It is going to get messy and awkward quickly any other way.

Omg it’s a shower for sisters, not a royal wedding where she’s inviting the pope. Get over yourself.

OP, this is totally fine if this is what the sisters want. Anyone who thinks it’s “messy or awkward” to come to a casual 1-hour joint celebration at like 2pm on a Saturday (lol) doesn’t sound like a great person to be around anyway.

[Anonymous]

Y’all overcomplicate stuff for no reason. It’s fine to have a joint shower. It’s fine, even preferred, to put the registry info on the invite. That’s the point of a shower. It’s performative to not put the info on the invite, and creates work for the people invited.

You are not responsible for people feeling obligated to buy gifts for both moms. At most, people who don’t know the other mom will choose a nominal amount to spend.