Declining cervix checks at prenatal visits

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Anonymous wrote:So you had a really easy birth and have decided to fixate on this to have something to complain about? I suggest getting some real problems

I wouldn’t call it easy. I really wanted the epidural Pp. It was very painful.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Baby was born 36 and 3 days. I wanted to decline second cervix check but doctor said no. Went from a 4 to a 9 in less than an hour. No time for epidural. Baby was out in a few pushes. Doctor kept saying we don’t know where you’re are, if your contractions are regular blah blah blah even when I was complaining about pain and asking for epidural. She said we need to check then leaves the room. So frustrating!! Speak up ladies. I was speaking up and still nothing .

So did you end up getting the first one? When did you get to hospital?This is my nightmare that I won’t have time for epidural. I plan to decline them until I go into labor but my understanding is when you go into labor naturally, they do need to check to see how dilated you are before you can get the epidural.

I was screaming to be checked so I could get epidural but nurse wanted doc to check again and doc was delivering another baby. Went from maybe 4 to 10 in less than an hour but possible nurse got it wrong. Few pushes he was out.

Congratulations on the baby op. I’m sorry you were ignored. It’s very scary to not be listened to in such a vulnerable moment. Been there. Emotions are very heightened the first couple weeks postpartum and this kind of thing makes it feel worse. Take it easy, ask for help from your support system and most importantly, and stay on top of your physical and mental health. Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you had a really easy birth and have decided to fixate on this to have something to complain about? I suggest getting some real problems

Find another place to troll. Will not let you gaslight this new mom.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Baby was born 36 and 3 days. I wanted to decline second cervix check but doctor said no. Went from a 4 to a 9 in less than an hour. No time for epidural. Baby was out in a few pushes. Doctor kept saying we don’t know where you’re are, if your contractions are regular blah blah blah even when I was complaining about pain and asking for epidural. She said we need to check then leaves the room. So frustrating!! Speak up ladies. I was speaking up and still nothing .

So did you end up getting the first one? When did you get to hospital?This is my nightmare that I won’t have time for epidural. I plan to decline them until I go into labor but my understanding is when you go into labor naturally, they do need to check to see how dilated you are before you can get the epidural.

I was screaming to be checked so I could get epidural but nurse wanted doc to check again and doc was delivering another baby. Went from maybe 4 to 10 in less than an hour but possible nurse got it wrong. Few pushes he was out.

God I’m so sorry OP that sounds awful. How long were you in labor before you went to the hospital?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m considering declining them until closer to my due date. My doctors office seems to do them starting at 36 weeks.

OP can you clarify the sequence of events? I'm close to giving birth a second time and this is something i'm considering/anxious about. So you were offered a cervical check at 36 weeks which you declined. But you went into spontaneous labor at 36 weeks and 3 days, went to the hospital, got checked and was at 4 cm, and progressed to 10cm quickly and did not have time to get the epidural (which would have required confirmation through a second check that you were dilated enough). Is this accurate?

If so something like this happened recently to a friend of mine - she declined cervical checks but once she went into labor at 39 weeks everything happened super quickly and she did not have time to get the epidural by the time she got to the hospital. She had an extremely painful birth as a result. I suppose this is one reason to get them after 36 weeks, so you potentially have some mental preparation that your body is more ready than you realize to giving birth? I know dilation isn't always predictive but at least sometimes, it is.

I had a pretty quick first birth with the epidural, and my OB told me this time it's likely to be faster. She offered me cervical check and said if they know I'm already starting to dilate, when i go into labor and call the hospital, they'll likely admit me faster.

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Anonymous wrote:Listen to this: my regular ob was on vacation so I had a sub (a male fwiw) for my first cervix check. To say it was excruciating was an understatement. And while I sat there writhing, the guy turned to me and said “you thought that hurt? I don’t know how you’re going to handle labor”.

Next week my regular ob was back. I braced myself for the cervix check and it was absolutely painless.

That being said, I feel like cervix checks added no value to my life and some pain.

Please report that male OB to the state medical board.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m considering declining them until closer to my due date. My doctors office seems to do them starting at 36 weeks.

OP can you clarify the sequence of events? I'm close to giving birth a second time and this is something i'm considering/anxious about. So you were offered a cervical check at 36 weeks which you declined. But you went into spontaneous labor at 36 weeks and 3 days, went to the hospital, got checked and was at 4 cm, and progressed to 10cm quickly and did not have time to get the epidural (which would have required confirmation through a second check that you were dilated enough). Is this accurate?

If so something like this happened recently to a friend of mine - she declined cervical checks but once she went into labor at 39 weeks everything happened super quickly and she did not have time to get the epidural by the time she got to the hospital. She had an extremely painful birth as a result. I suppose this is one reason to get them after 36 weeks, so you potentially have some mental preparation that your body is more ready than you realize to giving birth? I know dilation isn't always predictive but at least sometimes, it is.

I had a pretty quick first birth with the epidural, and my OB told me this time it's likely to be faster. She offered me cervical check and said if they know I'm already starting to dilate, when i go into labor and call the hospital, they'll likely admit me faster.

You can walk around at 4cm dilation for 2 weeks and not go into labor or, be checked at 5pm and be at 1cm then be delivering 5am the next day. The cervical checks don't mean much

It is normal for precipitous labor to be especially painful. Some women even find it traumatic because of loss of control and because all the pain is compressed into a couple hours

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Anonymous wrote:I’m considering declining them until closer to my due date. My doctors office seems to do them starting at 36 weeks.

OP can you clarify the sequence of events? I'm close to giving birth a second time and this is something i'm considering/anxious about. So you were offered a cervical check at 36 weeks which you declined. But you went into spontaneous labor at 36 weeks and 3 days, went to the hospital, got checked and was at 4 cm, and progressed to 10cm quickly and did not have time to get the epidural (which would have required confirmation through a second check that you were dilated enough). Is this accurate?

If so something like this happened recently to a friend of mine - she declined cervical checks but once she went into labor at 39 weeks everything happened super quickly and she did not have time to get the epidural by the time she got to the hospital. She had an extremely painful birth as a result. I suppose this is one reason to get them after 36 weeks, so you potentially have some mental preparation that your body is more ready than you realize to giving birth? I know dilation isn't always predictive but at least sometimes, it is.

I had a pretty quick first birth with the epidural, and my OB told me this time it's likely to be faster. She offered me cervical check and said if they know I'm already starting to dilate, when i go into labor and call the hospital, they'll likely admit me faster.

You can walk around at 4cm dilation for 2 weeks and not go into labor or, be checked at 5pm and be at 1cm then be delivering 5am the next day. The cervical checks don't mean much

It is normal for precipitous labor to be especially painful. Some women even find it traumatic because of loss of control and because all the pain is compressed into a couple hours

Op here. Yes this. All of my births have been precipitous but my water broke with my first before contractions started. I go from being fine to bam feeling them every min and feeling lots of pressure. This one I was so confused about because I felt so much pressure and contractions were only felt in the lower pelvic area. They say your tummy should be hard as a rock but that wasn’t the case for me with this one.

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OP. I am glad you are ok but to complain after the fact that you wanted an epidural is insane. They have to check to see if you are cleared for the epidural. It would be horrible if they didn’t. There is a window of opportunity for an epidural. I asked for one but when they checked they said it was too late and that if I sit up for it, I would literally be sitting on the baby and pushing him back up into my vagina. It was time to push. With my second, I had an epidural and still felt everything. Be happy

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Anonymous wrote:I’m considering declining them until closer to my due date. My doctors office seems to do them starting at 36 weeks.

OP can you clarify the sequence of events? I'm close to giving birth a second time and this is something i'm considering/anxious about. So you were offered a cervical check at 36 weeks which you declined. But you went into spontaneous labor at 36 weeks and 3 days, went to the hospital, got checked and was at 4 cm, and progressed to 10cm quickly and did not have time to get the epidural (which would have required confirmation through a second check that you were dilated enough). Is this accurate?

If so something like this happened recently to a friend of mine - she declined cervical checks but once she went into labor at 39 weeks everything happened super quickly and she did not have time to get the epidural by the time she got to the hospital. She had an extremely painful birth as a result. I suppose this is one reason to get them after 36 weeks, so you potentially have some mental preparation that your body is more ready than you realize to giving birth? I know dilation isn't always predictive but at least sometimes, it is.

I had a pretty quick first birth with the epidural, and my OB told me this time it's likely to be faster. She offered me cervical check and said if they know I'm already starting to dilate, when i go into labor and call the hospital, they'll likely admit me faster.

Op here. Very good point! At the last check ( second one) when doc said I was 7-9 my water broke when she was doing the check. I was feeling him come out while running out of triage to delivery room. They asked me to hold my legs together. It was a matter of mins after the check that I was ready to push. I should have stayed in the triage room. I also had bad hips so getting in the right position to push was difficult and did wasn’t nice when explaining how to push. She apologized later and did she knew how bad I wanted the epidural and was trying to get me to push so it could be over asap. My doula showed up just as I was getting ready to push and I still tore second degree with the short pushing time! I would advise you to make sure the hospital has tons of doctors available. I think they only had one doctor and she delivered 3 babies in 3.5 hours. One was a c section. The hospital is small but the closest one available.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I am glad you are ok but to complain after the fact that you wanted an epidural is insane. They have to check to see if you are cleared for the epidural. It would be horrible if they didn’t. There is a window of opportunity for an epidural. I asked for one but when they checked they said it was too late and that if I sit up for it, I would literally be sitting on the baby and pushing him back up into my vagina. It was time to push. With my second, I had an epidural and still felt everything. Be happy

If I was checked sooner I could have gotten one Pp. That’s the point. The nurse said I was a 4. Doc came in and said we’re still checking on things and didn’t know if I was having regular contractions blah blah blah. She didn’t check me until another half hour after that even though I was out at a 4 according to the nurse. The doc barely came into the room and dismissed my pain. I told her it’s my third birth and I know what I am feeling.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I am glad you are ok but to complain after the fact that you wanted an epidural is insane. They have to check to see if you are cleared for the epidural. It would be horrible if they didn’t. There is a window of opportunity for an epidural. I asked for one but when they checked they said it was too late and that if I sit up for it, I would literally be sitting on the baby and pushing him back up into my vagina. It was time to push. With my second, I had an epidural and still felt everything. Be happy

You sound insane yourself. Op can share her experience and be sad about it. She’s coming here to help others and op didn’t indicate the doctor told her having an epidural wasn’t possible after the check.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I am glad you are ok but to complain after the fact that you wanted an epidural is insane. They have to check to see if you are cleared for the epidural. It would be horrible if they didn’t. There is a window of opportunity for an epidural. I asked for one but when they checked they said it was too late and that if I sit up for it, I would literally be sitting on the baby and pushing him back up into my vagina. It was time to push. With my second, I had an epidural and still felt everything. Be happy

It's not insane to be upset that you had to go through an unnecessarily painful birth when you wanted pain management....

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Anonymous wrote:I’m considering declining them until closer to my due date. My doctors office seems to do them starting at 36 weeks.

OP can you clarify the sequence of events? I'm close to giving birth a second time and this is something i'm considering/anxious about. So you were offered a cervical check at 36 weeks which you declined. But you went into spontaneous labor at 36 weeks and 3 days, went to the hospital, got checked and was at 4 cm, and progressed to 10cm quickly and did not have time to get the epidural (which would have required confirmation through a second check that you were dilated enough). Is this accurate?

If so something like this happened recently to a friend of mine - she declined cervical checks but once she went into labor at 39 weeks everything happened super quickly and she did not have time to get the epidural by the time she got to the hospital. She had an extremely painful birth as a result. I suppose this is one reason to get them after 36 weeks, so you potentially have some mental preparation that your body is more ready than you realize to giving birth? I know dilation isn't always predictive but at least sometimes, it is.

I had a pretty quick first birth with the epidural, and my OB told me this time it's likely to be faster. She offered me cervical check and said if they know I'm already starting to dilate, when i go into labor and call the hospital, they'll likely admit me faster.

Op here. Very good point! At the last check ( second one) when doc said I was 7-9 my water broke when she was doing the check. I was feeling him come out while running out of triage to delivery room. They asked me to hold my legs together. It was a matter of mins after the check that I was ready to push. I should have stayed in the triage room. I also had bad hips so getting in the right position to push was difficult and did wasn’t nice when explaining how to push. She apologized later and did she knew how bad I wanted the epidural and was trying to get me to push so it could be over asap. My doula showed up just as I was getting ready to push and I still tore second degree with the short pushing time! I would advise you to make sure the hospital has tons of doctors available. I think they only had one doctor and she delivered 3 babies in 3.5 hours. One was a c section. The hospital is small but the closest one available.

Sorry OP, that sounds hectic and traumatic. Which hospital was this if you don't mind sharing? Congrats on the new baby. You sound pretty calm and composed for someone who unwillingly went through a natural birth. I'd be very very upset.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m considering declining them until closer to my due date. My doctors office seems to do them starting at 36 weeks.

Three kids at full term and no one even offered them. Where the heck are you people delivering babies- 1970??