My child wants to go to med school but hangs out with blue collar students who are pursuing less academic degrees

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Because he doesn’t have friends who are uber academic, he doesn’t get how much dedication it takes. He has the intellectual ability. He got overconfident after first year with all As. Then he signed up for tough courses second year but studied with his good ball friends. This semester GPA now 3.3. Not one A in a science course. No Cs though.

No shot at medical school with Bs in science courses..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will be tough for him to course correct at this point. He knew how he was doing in these classes but made poor choices. That's on him not his friends.

He's doing find. Challenging himself and getting Bs. He has a bright future ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he is figuring out that he wants something different. Does he have to be a doctor? Is he just saying that because it's what you want to hear?

Med school was his idea

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused- why are there blue collar students at college?

Because OP thinks that using terms as slurs will defend the social status of her mediocre family.

[Anonymous]

If he can’t stay on track around people who aren’t from his background then obviously he won’t succeed as a doctor.

Maybe law? There are lawyers who work primarily with other lawyers. Accountant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he is figuring out that he wants something different. Does he have to be a doctor? Is he just saying that because it's what you want to hear?

Med school was his idea

Probably because it's what he thought would placate his "white cllar" mother who thinks her family is better than everyone else. At college, coming out from under her thumb, he can stop beong obsequious.

[Anonymous]

I know exactly the kind of people you mean. I would recommend your DS transfer to a better school. Of course it's possible to find great people anywhere but it's much harder when one is surrounded. Values are important and being around quality people is imperative during formative years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused- why are there blue collar students at college?

Because OP thinks that using terms as slurs will defend the social status of her mediocre family.

NP Guessing OPs first language isn't English

[Anonymous]

We went through a similar experience with our daughter. We had hoped college would be a chance to break away from an unambitious friend group, but the friends ended up following her to the college town (they weren’t enrolled in school), and working at the Starbucks.

DD ended up failing out of college. After about 18 months of aimlessness, she’s now enrolled in an associate’s program at community college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We went through a similar experience with our daughter. We had hoped college would be a chance to break away from an unambitious friend group, but the friends ended up following her to the college town (they weren’t enrolled in school), and working at the Starbucks.

DD ended up failing out of college. After about 18 months of aimlessness, she’s now enrolled in an associate’s program at community college.

This is my worst nightmare. These kinds of people are not good for society. Dragging others down with them. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Bs in hard science classes at a state flagship aren’t “bad” - they may not cut it for med school but that’s why med school is so hard to get into these days, a lot of kids just can’t do as well as they would need to in those classes. It may have nothing or little to do with his friend group.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you don’t really like who your son is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused- why are there blue collar students at college?

Their backgrounds. No kids whose family members are white collar professionals

What a crock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We went through a similar experience with our daughter. We had hoped college would be a chance to break away from an unambitious friend group, but the friends ended up following her to the college town (they weren’t enrolled in school), and working at the Starbucks.

DD ended up failing out of college. After about 18 months of aimlessness, she’s now enrolled in an associate’s program at community college.

That is a parenting fail on your part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We went through a similar experience with our daughter. We had hoped college would be a chance to break away from an unambitious friend group, but the friends ended up following her to the college town (they weren’t enrolled in school), and working at the Starbucks.

DD ended up failing out of college. After about 18 months of aimlessness, she’s now enrolled in an associate’s program at community college.

This is my worst nightmare. These kinds of people are not good for society. Dragging others down with them. Disgusting.

No one can drag you down unless you let them. Lots of parents blaming everyone except their kids.