Good coach qualities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My biggest issue is communication. I feel ignored. Our coach never talks to us and never gives any feedback.

From my experience, the coach only builds bonds with the top players 1-5/6. If you are not a top player on the team most coach's will not spend the extra time on you that they will on their favorite players...its just life deal with it of find another coach.

This is the life lesson to go somewhere you are valued...does not matter if it is a wife, or soccer team...go where you are wanted not where you want to go...forcing yourself into a situation you think you want is not a good idea

[Anonymous]

1.) Foreign Accent
2.) Good looking
3.) Used to play for some obscure "pro/semi-pro" team overseas, but just missed out on making a career so now they coach
4.) Coaches two other teams, which are higher priority than yours
5.) Has a "side gig" doing skills training that is "optional"
6.) Preaches development, but clearly just coaches for wins

What did I miss?
/Sarcasm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Being able to and knowing how to develop and train players to become better. This means from early fall to late fall they become better at the game in all aspects (technical and on the field positioning).

2. Holding players accountable. Does the coach expect players to train 10-15 minutes at home? Do it. Does the coach expect players to be able to juggle 10 at at time in three months? They hold them to it at practice.

3. Being positive when coaching hard. There is a fine line between coaching too hard and coaching too soft. Good coaches know how to explain what their players are doing wrong without them feeling bad.

4. Making the game fun. Some coaches don't make the game fun. These are still kids. They want to have fun playing the game.

I posted my list above and I love all 4 of these points also! Fun is key. I'm saddened that over the past 2-3 weeks my 10 year old has said she didn't think her Coach liked her. This is on a competitive team. We've worked hard to be here. I'd be crushed if my DD wanted to quit or change teams because of this one issue. And watching practice, it doesn't seem that fun at all. There is no enthusiasm from the Coach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1.) Foreign Accent
2.) Good looking
3.) Used to play for some obscure "pro/semi-pro" team overseas, but just missed out on making a career so now they coach
4.) Coaches two other teams, which are higher priority than yours
5.) Has a "side gig" doing skills training that is "optional"
6.) Preaches development, but clearly just coaches for wins

What did I miss?
/Sarcasm

Ugh, you just described 1 or 2 coaches at every club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My biggest issue is communication. I feel ignored. Our coach never talks to us and never gives any feedback.

From my experience, the coach only builds bonds with the top players 1-5/6. If you are not a top player on the team most coach's will not spend the extra time on you that they will on their favorite players...its just life deal with it of find another coach.

This is the life lesson to go somewhere you are valued...does not matter if it is a wife, or soccer team...go where you are wanted not where you want to go...forcing yourself into a situation you think you want is not a good idea

In my experience if you're not in that top 6,the player or the parent is going to the coach to find out what they need to work on to get better. You say go where you are valued, I say bring attempt to bring value to the situation before running away because someone isn't giving you an attaboy for being sub par. In life if your manager is manging 20 employees you aren't given advice, you're replaced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS started travel at u9 and is now u16. He’s had a wide range of coaches. Here’s my opinion but it is just that. Others will value other things.

He had a great u9 coach. He coached A and B teams and moved players between each week based on performance and effort. He took the time to give players feedback on this decision each week. He was encouraging. He never yelled or joystick coached from the sidelines. He engaged in quiet conversations on the bench and sent kids back out to the field with specific feedback of what to do differently. We loved him but other parents felt he was too passive.

U10 and u11 had a coach who was very strict but effective at elevating the level of play. He focused on positioning, passing and demanded discipline. There was too much joystick coaching and yelling for my taste but some parents thought it was amazing. DS became a stronger player initially but lost his love for the game because he was so afraid of making mistakes.

He had a slew of ok coaches over the next several years. They were all positive and kind. However, my son complained there was not enough discipline. Kids missed practices and weren’t always present for pre-game warmups which affected the team. DS determined he preferred a strict coach so off he went.

Last year DS found his perfect coaching slate. Very high expectations and discipline but zero yelling. Coaches allow the players to take risks on the field and don’t berate them for mistakes. They use them as learning experiences.

My best advice is to attend practices and watch coaches in action before committing.

Joystick coaching is invaluable if it’s a coach who understands the game. What happens is that joystick slowly implements itself into your kids brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS started travel at u9 and is now u16. He’s had a wide range of coaches. Here’s my opinion but it is just that. Others will value other things.

He had a great u9 coach. He coached A and B teams and moved players between each week based on performance and effort. He took the time to give players feedback on this decision each week. He was encouraging. He never yelled or joystick coached from the sidelines. He engaged in quiet conversations on the bench and sent kids back out to the field with specific feedback of what to do differently. We loved him but other parents felt he was too passive.

U10 and u11 had a coach who was very strict but effective at elevating the level of play. He focused on positioning, passing and demanded discipline. There was too much joystick coaching and yelling for my taste but some parents thought it was amazing. DS became a stronger player initially but lost his love for the game because he was so afraid of making mistakes.

He had a slew of ok coaches over the next several years. They were all positive and kind. However, my son complained there was not enough discipline. Kids missed practices and weren’t always present for pre-game warmups which affected the team. DS determined he preferred a strict coach so off he went.

Last year DS found his perfect coaching slate. Very high expectations and discipline but zero yelling. Coaches allow the players to take risks on the field and don’t berate them for mistakes. They use them as learning experiences.

My best advice is to attend practices and watch coaches in action before committing.

Joystick coaching is invaluable if it’s a coach who understands the game. What happens is that joystick slowly implements itself into your kids brain.

You're supposed to end with

/sarcasm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My biggest issue is communication. I feel ignored. Our coach never talks to us and never gives any feedback.

Sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My biggest issue is communication. I feel ignored. Our coach never talks to us and never gives any feedback.

Sad

Does he give your kid feedback?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My biggest issue is communication. I feel ignored. Our coach never talks to us and never gives any feedback.

Sad

Does he give your kid feedback?

Probably does, we all know how most of these kids are depending on the age. How many times have you asked your kid what did the coach say to you after the game or practice and you get a shoulder shrug lol. Communication doesn't have to be initiated by the coach, you're allowed to talk to them or email them. If there's no response to either of those then yes it's a problem but don't complain about communication if your kid or you don't attempt to initiate it. Closed mouths don't get fed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My biggest issue is communication. I feel ignored. Our coach never talks to us and never gives any feedback.

Sad

Does he give your kid feedback?

Yes, our coaches through the years have all been great.

[Anonymous]

How can I nicely tell my kid's club that I'm not going to donate to their giving Tuesday drive until their Coach answers at least one of the four emails I have sent him since August.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1.) Foreign Accent
2.) Good looking
3.) Used to play for some obscure "pro/semi-pro" team overseas, but just missed out on making a career so now they coach
4.) Coaches two other teams, which are higher priority than yours
5.) Has a "side gig" doing skills training that is "optional"
6.) Preaches development, but clearly just coaches for wins

What did I miss?
/Sarcasm

Lol, this is pretty good!