Did you kids experience any set backs as they went through youth sports?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. My athlete was put on B team last year. It was utter BS. Other coaches disagreed. Other parents disagreed. But there is no questioning the decision with person who made the call.

My athlete is legitimately good (as well as hard worker and amazing teammate). Played well at a national level. Has played lights out for the club on multiple occasions (before the decision). Was being recruited by D1, 2, and 3 schools. Was smack in the middle of that. So it could have really impacted things negatively.

We were furious. But knowing there was nothing to be done, we demoted the club as a priority (no more prioritizing the practices and events). Guested with other clubs and was able to showcase the playing without our club. Had many offers to play as a result.

After that, my kid has rocked the sport and will be on the A team this year. Coaches are all of a sudden thrilled about DC bc of watching how they’ve played amazing since the snub. I have zero love for the club but the fawning is hilarious now.

The whole thing taught there is no loyalty sports. None. Zero. Among many other negative things.

But it also showed how you can work for yourself and for your goals in many different ways. You want something? Get it.

This!!!! Youth sports is so political. Do what’s best for your kid. Those other parents aren’t your friends anyway.

The last sentence - it took me way too many years to really get that.

Sad

[Anonymous]

hilarious post OP - brings out the DCUM nuts and illustrates the psycho nature of youth sports.

Not one parent has spoken about kids talent being the issue, and the kids growth and maturity benefiting by coming to terms with this as an issue - instead, every response is all about a coach snub or the undeserved relegation to a B team. DCUM never fails!

[Anonymous]

DCUM is a bunch of whining losers like the Democratic Party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hilarious post OP - brings out the DCUM nuts and illustrates the psycho nature of youth sports.

Not one parent has spoken about kids talent being the issue, and the kids growth and maturity benefiting by coming to terms with this as an issue - instead, every response is all about a coach snub or the undeserved relegation to a B team. DCUM never fails!

What does this have to do with my OP? There’s many reasons a kid doesn’t make a team, could be a late bloomer, could have an awkward phase where brains are matching up with body, could be young, etc. Not sure what’s wrong with the Q

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My athlete was put on B team last year. It was utter BS. Other coaches disagreed. Other parents disagreed. But there is no questioning the decision with person who made the call.

My athlete is legitimately good (as well as hard worker and amazing teammate). Played well at a national level. Has played lights out for the club on multiple occasions (before the decision). Was being recruited by D1, 2, and 3 schools. Was smack in the middle of that. So it could have really impacted things negatively.

We were furious. But knowing there was nothing to be done, we demoted the club as a priority (no more prioritizing the practices and events). Guested with other clubs and was able to showcase the playing without our club. Had many offers to play as a result.

After that, my kid has rocked the sport and will be on the A team this year. Coaches are all of a sudden thrilled about DC bc of watching how they’ve played amazing since the snub. I have zero love for the club but the fawning is hilarious now.

The whole thing taught there is no loyalty sports. None. Zero. Among many other negative things.

But it also showed how you can work for yourself and for your goals in many different ways. You want something? Get it.

This!!!! Youth sports is so political. Do what’s best for your kid. Those other parents aren’t your friends anyway.

The last sentence - it took me way too many years to really get that.

Sad

It’s very sad, but it’s true. Sports can be so competitive and don’t think the next kid won’t try to take your kid’s spot if they have the chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hilarious post OP - brings out the DCUM nuts and illustrates the psycho nature of youth sports.

Not one parent has spoken about kids talent being the issue, and the kids growth and maturity benefiting by coming to terms with this as an issue - instead, every response is all about a coach snub or the undeserved relegation to a B team. DCUM never fails!

What does this have to do with my OP? There’s many reasons a kid doesn’t make a team, could be a late bloomer, could have an awkward phase where brains are matching up with body, could be young, etc. Not sure what’s wrong with the Q

the question was awesome and if answered by a cross section of the United States would have an even distribution of responses. But not in DCUM territory - it’s all about Farnsworth, Declan, Belle, or Zoe getting treated unfairly by the coach - so unfair!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hilarious post OP - brings out the DCUM nuts and illustrates the psycho nature of youth sports.

Not one parent has spoken about kids talent being the issue, and the kids growth and maturity benefiting by coming to terms with this as an issue - instead, every response is all about a coach snub or the undeserved relegation to a B team. DCUM never fails!

My kid got cut and we all knew it was coming. She were near the end of the bench and just progressing the way her teammates were. It was the push she needed to move on from the sport. I wouldn't consider it a set back because the just moved on with their life and set back implies they progressed in that area. Disappointment is probably a better term

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hilarious post OP - brings out the DCUM nuts and illustrates the psycho nature of youth sports.

Not one parent has spoken about kids talent being the issue, and the kids growth and maturity benefiting by coming to terms with this as an issue - instead, every response is all about a coach snub or the undeserved relegation to a B team. DCUM never fails!

And that some dickhead posts their vitriol -shXX they'd never say to anyone's face- is also a DCUM never fail. Well done, pp.

BTW, I posted earlier and my kid's talent actually never was the issue. But I don't care if you believe it.

[Anonymous]

My daughter was on a team for years and was getting less and less playing time so I kind of forced her to go through tryouts. She got an offer from another club for a higher level team and decided to take it. She starts, has gotten better coaching and has learned a lot. She was sad about missing some of her former teammates but it was nice for her to clobber them in a tournament. She scored half the goals and her former coach had the nerve to ask her to tryout for him. Ha!

[Anonymous]

My kid tried out for years to make a club team. Rejection after rejection. We found him alternative ways to play and he eventually made the team and has done great ever since. He learned a ton about himself and persistence as part of the process and was recognized for the effort he put in along the way. Wouldn’t change a thing even though it was pretty painful to go through. Lots of life lessons there.

Same kid gave up another sport though when he did not make a cut. That was a bit of a bummer as it was something he enjoyed and the snub made him just walk away. It’s been fine, he likely would not have been able to keep with that on top of his other sport, and did end doing that sport in gym class and having a lot of fun, but I sometimes wonder what would have happened if he had made that silly summer team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hilarious post OP - brings out the DCUM nuts and illustrates the psycho nature of youth sports.

Not one parent has spoken about kids talent being the issue, and the kids growth and maturity benefiting by coming to terms with this as an issue - instead, every response is all about a coach snub or the undeserved relegation to a B team. DCUM never fails!

You should read more closely. I saw posts about a chronic illness, moving frequently, coach availability, size, not playing their preferred position, and just not making the team. Several did mention how the disappointment positively affected the athlete by providing more playing time, leadership opportunities, and motivation.

Your judgmental response is more indicative of the negative aspects to dcum than the responses to OP.

[Anonymous]

Broken foot, comeback, cut from A team, switch team, lied to, switch team, great for a while, then coach barely played them, moved up a year, good experience until they aged out, tried out for area top team, didn’t get it, covid, almost recruited, but not, plays club and is happy

[Anonymous]

Eh the clubs are very political, donations matter. and often it actually is a snub. So I wouldn’t say those parents are wrong necessarily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My athlete was put on B team last year. It was utter BS. Other coaches disagreed. Other parents disagreed. But there is no questioning the decision with person who made the call.

My athlete is legitimately good (as well as hard worker and amazing teammate). Played well at a national level. Has played lights out for the club on multiple occasions (before the decision). Was being recruited by D1, 2, and 3 schools. Was smack in the middle of that. So it could have really impacted things negatively.

We were furious. But knowing there was nothing to be done, we demoted the club as a priority (no more prioritizing the practices and events). Guested with other clubs and was able to showcase the playing without our club. Had many offers to play as a result.

After that, my kid has rocked the sport and will be on the A team this year. Coaches are all of a sudden thrilled about DC bc of watching how they’ve played amazing since the snub. I have zero love for the club but the fawning is hilarious now.

The whole thing taught there is no loyalty sports. None. Zero. Among many other negative things.

But it also showed how you can work for yourself and for your goals in many different ways. You want something? Get it.

This!!!! [b]Youth sports is so political.[/b] Do what’s best for your kid. Those other parents aren’t your friends anyway.

Youth team sports is so political where coaches hold the power. That's why my kids are in individual sports. You eat what you kill....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hilarious post OP - brings out the DCUM nuts and illustrates the psycho nature of youth sports.

Not one parent has spoken about kids talent being the issue, and the kids growth and maturity benefiting by coming to terms with this as an issue - instead, every response is all about a coach snub or the undeserved relegation to a B team. DCUM never fails!

You didn’t read the whole thread.