I has ADHD as a Child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. I was untreated too. Despite a high IQ, I barely finished college and impulsively married the wrong person who I’ve been dependent on because I’ve never been able to earn enough to support myself.

you can't blame terrible life decisions on ADHD

Hahaha. You 100% can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. I was untreated too. Despite a high IQ, I barely finished college and impulsively married the wrong person who I’ve been dependent on because I’ve never been able to earn enough to support myself.

you can't blame terrible life decisions on ADHD

Hahaha. You 100% can.

Then you're 100% equating ADHD with stupidity and that's not really fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. I was untreated too. Despite a high IQ, I barely finished college and impulsively married the wrong person who I’ve been dependent on because I’ve never been able to earn enough to support myself.

you can't blame terrible life decisions on ADHD

Hahaha. You 100% can.

Then you're 100% equating ADHD with stupidity and that's not really fair.

Nope. Not at all. It often comes along with high IQ, like I SAID. Untreated ADHD does lead to more risky behavior, injuries, and impulsive behavior, less job stability, and lower income. Treat your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 53 and I believe that, when I was in high school, i had adhd because i physically couldn't sit still long enough to read my homework.
However, 35 years ago, adhd wasn't diagnosed for every ailment the way it is today and I had to just deal with it. I was an awful student in high school and college, but eventually I learned to cope and I picked up several graduate degrees and became a tax lawyer.

All this by way of saying, you (parent) are not the same person you were when you were your junior year of high school, and your DC will change too. It's probably more important that your DC feels supported and loved than that they get an ACT score that will get them into a T25.

I'm not sure what I have/had but I was the sort of kid that typically waits till the last minute to study. I suspect I also had other processing issues and would never be able to complete all questions in exams (all answers had to be handwritten). Fair to say that I'd leave 10% points on the table for writing-heavy subjects but typically got 100% of what I attempted right. This was in another country where we were not even familiar with the concept of ADHD. You'd just be called lazy and punished by your teacher (which I often was) for poor grades. I start reading books but seldom finish them unless it's fiction.

This trend with waiting until the last minute continued into adulthood as well. I'll miss deadlines to submit expense reports and pay bills. I thrived in jobs where I was a manager where most of my work was meetings, analysis, decision making I could delegate work to others. This procrastination is so extreme that whenever I lost my job, I would just delay applying and before you know it, it would be months and I've already settled into a comfortable non-productive routine. Has happened more than once and the last time it did, I 'retired' two years ago. 58 now. Seems to getting worse with age..

Do I have ADHD or am I just lazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. I was untreated too. Despite a high IQ, I barely finished college and impulsively married the wrong person who I’ve been dependent on because I’ve never been able to earn enough to support myself.

you can't blame terrible life decisions on ADHD

Hahaha. You 100% can.

Then you're 100% equating ADHD with stupidity and that's not really fair.

Nope. Not at all. It often comes along with high IQ, like I SAID. Untreated ADHD does lead to more risky behavior, injuries, and impulsive behavior, less job stability, and lower income. Treat your kids.

My kids are fine thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 53 and I believe that, when I was in high school, i had adhd because i physically couldn't sit still long enough to read my homework.
However, 35 years ago, adhd wasn't diagnosed for every ailment the way it is today and I had to just deal with it. I was an awful student in high school and college, but eventually I learned to cope and I picked up several graduate degrees and became a tax lawyer.

All this by way of saying, you (parent) are not the same person you were when you were your junior year of high school, and your DC will change too. It's probably more important that your DC feels supported and loved than that they get an ACT score that will get them into a T25.

So you "got over" your ADHD, no medication required? What sort of message are you trying to send here?

did you manage to read her 2nd paragraph?

Hello? ADHD. We don't get to the second paragraph. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 53 and I believe that, when I was in high school, i had adhd because i physically couldn't sit still long enough to read my homework.
However, 35 years ago, adhd wasn't diagnosed for every ailment the way it is today and I had to just deal with it. I was an awful student in high school and college, but eventually I learned to cope and I picked up several graduate degrees and became a tax lawyer.

All this by way of saying, you (parent) are not the same person you were when you were your junior year of high school, and your DC will change too. It's probably more important that your DC feels supported and loved than that they get an ACT score that will get them into a T25.

So you "got over" your ADHD, no medication required? What sort of message are you trying to send here?

did you manage to read her 2nd paragraph?

Hello? ADHD. We don't get to the second paragraph. Sheesh.

Yeah, that was my point. I guess that also went over your head.

[Anonymous]

All kids have some degree of ADHD. Who wants to sit in class and listen to someone hours at a time. Not fun!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations. I was untreated too. Despite a high IQ, I barely finished college and impulsively married the wrong person who I’ve been dependent on because I’ve never been able to earn enough to support myself.

you can't blame terrible life decisions on ADHD

Hahaha. You 100% can.

Then you're 100% equating ADHD with stupidity and that's not really fair.

Nope. Not at all. It often comes along with high IQ, like I SAID. Untreated ADHD does lead to more risky behavior, injuries, and impulsive behavior, less job stability, and lower income. Treat your kids.

My kids are fine thanks.

Are you an adult?