Is “ding dong ditching” a rite of passage? And would you be mad?

[Anonymous]

Why would the police care? “Not waiting for someone to answer the doorbell” isn’t a crime. It’s mildly rude but I don’t see it as a big deal unless/until it’s repeated or middle of the night.

On Halloween; then the doorbell rang a million times legitimately, I wouldn’t even remember it by 9 pm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sure not a huge deal but definitely a jerk thing to do and reflects poorly on you as the family.

A neighbor girl tried that with us. She had been acting mean and bullying my DD. We were keeping our distance and ignoring it. She had some mean girls having a sleepover at her home (who were strangers to us and our DD). and they decided that it would be funny if they would do that to my DD.

My DH strode to her house after them, pushed open the door, walked in to these giggling girls and the startled parents and complained about what the girls did. The mother stuttered that it was just kids being naughty. My DH replied if tomorrow they burn a cross in our yard do you think it will just be a prank? And then he strode right back. Parents came and apologized. And all of them remain straightened out for the rest of their time on Earth.

For reference - all the girls were White. We are POC and immigrants. And not Christians.

If your husband pushed open our door and walked in, he would have gotten the beat down of a lifetime. If our dogs didn't get to him first.

Your husband is not only an idiot, he's an assh@le. But you sound like you enjoy that and are proud of it, so you two clearly deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sure not a huge deal but definitely a jerk thing to do and reflects poorly on you as the family.

A neighbor girl tried that with us. She had been acting mean and bullying my DD. We were keeping our distance and ignoring it. She had some mean girls having a sleepover at her home (who were strangers to us and our DD). and they decided that it would be funny if they would do that to my DD.

My DH strode to her house after them, pushed open the door, walked in to these giggling girls and the startled parents and complained about what the girls did. The mother stuttered that it was just kids being naughty. My DH replied if tomorrow they burn a cross in our yard do you think it will just be a prank? And then he strode right back. Parents came and apologized. And all of them remain straightened out for the rest of their time on Earth.

For reference - all the girls were White. We are POC and immigrants. And not Christians.

k that's an unhinged escalation

+1 pretty much everything he did was a crazy escalation including barging into a neighbors house. Some might even call that breaking and entering.

Pretty sure that she's lying about that. There's about a 0% chance that someone just barges into a house like that and nobody does anything about it.

She seems weirdly pleased with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sure not a huge deal but definitely a jerk thing to do and reflects poorly on you as the family.

A neighbor girl tried that with us. She had been acting mean and bullying my DD. We were keeping our distance and ignoring it. She had some mean girls having a sleepover at her home (who were strangers to us and our DD). and they decided that it would be funny if they would do that to my DD.

My DH strode to her house after them, pushed open the door, walked in to these giggling girls and the startled parents and complained about what the girls did. The mother stuttered that it was just kids being naughty. My DH replied if tomorrow they burn a cross in our yard do you think it will just be a prank? And then he strode right back. Parents came and apologized. And all of them remain straightened out for the rest of their time on Earth.

For reference - all the girls were White. We are POC and immigrants. And not Christians.

Holy shit your husband is a lunatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On an unrelated note, why isn't TPing someone's house a thing anymore?

Are you saying you want it back? Frist of all, tp is expensive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sure not a huge deal but definitely a jerk thing to do and reflects poorly on you as the family.

The only real jerk thing to do is judge a parent second guessing the way she handled a benign situation on an anonymous forum , but here you are....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sure not a huge deal but definitely a jerk thing to do and reflects poorly on you as the family.

A neighbor girl tried that with us. She had been acting mean and bullying my DD. We were keeping our distance and ignoring it. She had some mean girls having a sleepover at her home (who were strangers to us and our DD). and they decided that it would be funny if they would do that to my DD.

My DH strode to her house after them, pushed open the door, walked in to these giggling girls and the startled parents and complained about what the girls did. The mother stuttered that it was just kids being naughty. My DH replied if tomorrow they burn a cross in our yard do you think it will just be a prank? And then he strode right back. Parents came and apologized. And all of them remain straightened out for the rest of their time on Earth.

For reference - all the girls were White. We are POC and immigrants. And not Christians.

DDD and cross burning are VERY DIFFERENT, but sure call it out for racism....it's not unless they only do it to PoC, which I'd be willing to bet the girls do it to white nerdy kids too. Why is everything race to you?! BtW I'm also a PoC and I definitely don't see the world through this lens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sure not a huge deal but definitely a jerk thing to do and reflects poorly on you as the family.

A neighbor girl tried that with us. She had been acting mean and bullying my DD. We were keeping our distance and ignoring it. She had some mean girls having a sleepover at her home (who were strangers to us and our DD). and they decided that it would be funny if they would do that to my DD.

My DH strode to her house after them, pushed open the door, walked in to these giggling girls and the startled parents and complained about what the girls did. The mother stuttered that it was just kids being naughty. My DH replied if tomorrow they burn a cross in our yard do you think it will just be a prank? And then he strode right back. Parents came and apologized. And all of them remain straightened out for the rest of their time on Earth.

For reference - all the girls were White. We are POC and immigrants. And not Christians.

DDD and cross burning are VERY DIFFERENT, but sure call it out for racism....it's not unless they only do it to PoC, which I'd be willing to bet the girls do it to white nerdy kids too. Why is everything race to you?! BtW I'm also a PoC and I definitely don't see the world through this lens.

Me again. Forgot to mention we used to TP each other's houses when I was younger too. We would only do the kids we liked, like someone in our circle or a boy someone liked. It definitely was not racism, actually the opposite, it was inclusion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never did it because it's not funny. I mean, what is the joke? You made the dog bark haha? Pitiful.

I think it's fairly benign in that you aren't hurting anyone. Most people don't answer their doors now anyway. But it's dumb, plus you should assume you'll be caught on camera.

So, you were born 40 year old already. Your poor parents, they thought they were having a fun child that would mature with time. But they had a middle aged curmudgeon

[Anonymous]

Yes
No

[Anonymous]

I don't go to the door at all unless I am expecting someone so I wouldn't care. Some people on Nextdoor post videos of kids doing that though and then shame them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sure not a huge deal but definitely a jerk thing to do and reflects poorly on you as the family.

A neighbor girl tried that with us. She had been acting mean and bullying my DD. We were keeping our distance and ignoring it. She had some mean girls having a sleepover at her home (who were strangers to us and our DD). and they decided that it would be funny if they would do that to my DD.

My DH strode to her house after them, pushed open the door, walked in to these giggling girls and the startled parents and complained about what the girls did. The mother stuttered that it was just kids being naughty. My DH replied if tomorrow they burn a cross in our yard do you think it will just be a prank? And then he strode right back. Parents came and apologized. And all of them remain straightened out for the rest of their time on Earth.

For reference - all the girls were White. We are POC and immigrants. And not Christians.

If your husband pushed open our door and walked in, he would have gotten the beat down of a lifetime. If our dogs didn't get to him first.

Your husband is not only an idiot, he's an assh@le. But you sound like you enjoy that and are proud of it, so you two clearly deserve each other.

Oh oh oh, you are very triggered about something that did not happen to you. Could it be that you are a MoFo ah@le racist family indulging in this trash behavior and have been getting away with it till now? Maybe the thought that some bullied person could retaliate has you bristling with anger? The only way to shut down racist bullies is to show them your strength. Remember others can also have muscle, dogs, guns, connection, money etc.

[Anonymous]

Our neighborhood kids did this but they were too young to remember to ditch. Do they said hi then ran. Lol.

[Anonymous]

It’s rude and I’ve only had it done once and my dog barked and woke up the baby I’d just gotten down. I was LIVID. caught the kid and he came and apologized the next day.

[Anonymous]

That's great that she told you! I'd make sure you thank her for that. It's good that her conscience is bothering her. Teach her to listen to that voice inside her head. Teenage brains are still forming and it's very natural to be impulsive. The key thing to do is to try to build in a "pause" before just going along with the crowd, so that the conscience has time to be heard