Introvert seen as aloof and judgy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, this is a thing. It's especially rough for highly attractive people who are introverted and quiet. People label them as snooty, stuck up, aloof and judgy, etc. When they are just trying to live their damn life.

People are self-involved; they have to assume you aren't talking to them because of something to do with ... them. It can't possibly be that you are just minding your own business. Nope, you must be being aloof and judgy ... because the world revolves around them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m an introvert and my whole life people have been telling me that I seem aloof and uncaring. Couldn’t be further from the truth.

Yes, same. I smile, I interact, but I prefer to listen. I wish I could live in Scandinavia if what a PP says is true. I hate that my natural personality is seen this way and is a deficit.

[Anonymous]

I remember being told by a new friend in high school that she had always thought I was such a snob, but that I wasn't at all once she got to know me. I was shocked that anyone thought of me that way, but I realized that being a naturally shy/introverted person probably came across that way. So she did me a favor, because I then made more of an effort to come out of my shell and was very aware of this when I started college. Made making friends a lot easier, even though at heart I remain an introvert.