is it appropriate for a coach?

[Anonymous]

I think it’s ok. Sure beats DS’s HS coach who calls the boys p*ssies.

[Anonymous]

This seems like this question is coming from a player and not a parent. We’re missing a lot of background and context. It’s hard to provide an objective and helpful answer without witnessing something like this 1st hand.

But in short, there is little wrong with telling a group of teenage girls the truth as the coach, teacher or parent sees it. A little dose of reality usually only helps to strengthen one’s character.

[Anonymous]

Are you the entitled and immature teens asking the question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if there may be some truth to it, do you think it’s appropriate for a Soccer Coach to tell a group of teenage girls that they are immature and entitled? This was said in an insulting and demeaning way, not in a joking way.

Don't want to judge what is appropriate but when a coach loses respect for the kids, it is time for them to move on. All kids seem immature and entitled to old folks. Everybody should have the clown coach once, the buddy coach once, the disinterested coach once once, the young coach once, the old coach one, etc. Having the clown coach more than once is a recipe for kids quiting sports. Hopefully the players get a different coach next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP, I said may be some truth to it because at times these girls can act a little immature, but they are still young teens. I suppose I wouldn’t be upset with him just saying they were immature at times and encourage them to focus/be more serious.

My issue is when he is yelling/berating shaming certain players by calling them names, for example, “entitled” because their “parents can afford to send them to a private school” does not seem appropriate since in context it had nothing to do with their performance. Actually I don’t think it’s really appropriate for any adult to try to shame a child by calling them entitled in front of their teammates.

If it's travel soccer, it's absolutely acceptable. If you want to fool around during practice play rec.

[Anonymous]

I’d be annoyed. Not your place as a coach.

[Anonymous]

My kids plays travel soccer. I say inappropriate. It's okay to say you are acting xx, yy, or zz. Not that they are those things. But maybe something was lost in translation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s ok. Sure beats DS’s HS coach who calls the boys p*ssies.

Yep. My son's coach calls them f**king p*ssies! You must have a nicer coach than my kid's. : )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be annoyed. Not your place as a coach.

Depends what they were being entitled and immature about doesn't it? If you are f'king around in practice, then you are being immature and probably entitled about your place on the team. Chew them up coach...absolutely the coach's place. If whats bothering the coach is that their parents drive a 200k car and take regular trips to Europe, then you should keep quiet coach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be annoyed. Not your place as a coach.

Are they your kids? This behavior is learned, and it almost 100% comes from the parents. You think you pay someone and you own them. Coach is trying to teach the team something and a few girls are likely doing stupid things/making fun of someone/talking behind the coach’s back…the coach should just kick them off the team and not waste time with these entitled brats. Parents can take their checkbooks somewhere else and pay their way in