What do you wear for dressy casual these days?

[Anonymous]

Do the hosts a favor and put at least some minimal effort into your outfit, so it’s at least a step above what you wear to the Olive Garden on Tuesday night. No jeans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I almost always overdress in these situations, like I'll choose a dress since that fits my body type well, but most people will be in jeans. Except for the times when I choose jeans and people are more fancy.

+1
I'm more comfortable overdressed than under.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people not own black pants anymore? Black pants and a "going out shirt".

Hahaha that’s me!!! I am an elder millennial 😂

[Anonymous]

I'd find a dress or skirt/top combo that I can make look nice enough to show I care about the couple but not too fancy

Like I wore this dress to a friend's pre-wedding party at a nice restaurant over the summer - and it felt like it was the right amount of dressiness; some people were more, some less, but I felt like I looked like I wasn't too dressed up but still sufficiently so to show I care about the couple getting married: https://www.everlane.com/products/womens-supima-jersey-riviera-dress-black?collection=womens-dresses

Jeans and a nice top would have been absolutely fine at that event, too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do people not own black pants anymore? Black pants and a "going out shirt".

Hahaha that’s me!!! I am an elder millennial 😂

Oooo the Express ones.

[Anonymous]

A dress is usually going to be easy for any wedding event. It shows you care, and there are lots of casual dresses.

[Anonymous]

Drinks at a bar--Depends on the exact venue. Is it upscale or just a pub?

Brunch I would wear black trousers, Hermes scarf tied into a halter (Courbettes et cabrioles to be specific on the print), and an ivory knit blazer. Shoes would be CL Miss Sabs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am of the mind that people wear jeans all the time, so if someone is going to the trouble of hosting a wedding weekend, I can put on something a step up from jeans. I have tons of cute dresses that can lean casual or dressy. Or a wide leg pair of pants with silk shirt or something else fun.

This is op. I like this idea. I think the problem is that I have niceish sweaters but not really any nice festive tops. Where is a good place to look at silk shirts? Most of my button down shirts are very boring business shirts. I've struck out at Nordstrom loft near my office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am of the mind that people wear jeans all the time, so if someone is going to the trouble of hosting a wedding weekend, I can put on something a step up from jeans. I have tons of cute dresses that can lean casual or dressy. Or a wide leg pair of pants with silk shirt or something else fun.

This is op. I like this idea. I think the problem is that I have niceish sweaters but not really any nice festive tops. Where is a good place to look at silk shirts? Most of my button down shirts are very boring business shirts. I've struck out at Nordstrom loft near my office.

I think boden has a lot of really cute silk blouses that are more interesting than standard work issue blouses.

[Anonymous]

Aritzia or Equipment for blouses. Or a silk tank with a blazer and boots is a safe bet

For brunch I would do something that is basically elevated pajamas—wide leg pant, camisole, cardigan, sunglasses

[Anonymous]

I would wear something nicer than jeans to Friday. Pants and a sweater would be ok. Brides friends might be in nice jeans but as an older person I would not wear them. Men will probably be in khakis with possibly a blazer.

Sunday will depend on if you’re headed to the airport right after, but it’s probably anything but sweats and pjs after the big party. Khakis or pants are fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would wear something nicer than jeans to Friday. Pants and a sweater would be ok. Brides friends might be in nice jeans but as an older person I would not wear them. Men will probably be in khakis with possibly a blazer.

Sunday will depend on if you’re headed to the airport right after, but it’s probably anything but sweats and pjs after the big party. Khakis or pants are fine.

I reread the invitation and the brunch is indeed just casual whereas the Friday night cocktails are dressy casual.

[Anonymous]

A wrap dress probably.

[Anonymous]

- Midi ribbed sweater dress in olive, oatmeal or maroon with some nice accessories (e.g. mini leather bag from cuyana) and leather mules, suede sneakers, or boots depending on the crowd

- Pleated wool midi skirt (check this season DVF for options) or wide leg cropped trousers with crop sweater / tee and a oversized blazer or shrunken jacket (check: ALC, APC) in neutral brown / olive tones

- wide leg jumpsuit with oversized cashmere wool overcoat (check: maxmara, the row)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do people not own black pants anymore? Black pants and a "going out shirt".

I have black pants for every occasion.