Schoo for junior who’s not smart

[Anonymous]

If, as you say, "sh*t hit the fan" last year, you need to take a deep breath and calm down. There could be 10000001 reasons, besides or in addition to learning issues, that are contributing to the situation. Teenage years are hard.

I did absolutely terrible in high school academically. Went to community college, then university, then law school. I have a very successful career etc. I was diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive) in my mid-20's.

I understand how frustrating this all can be.. believe me, she is likely also very frustrated. Have you worked with specialist that can assist the school and your daughter with approaches that may help her (audio books vs written books or in addition to written books, longer testing times or verbal test etc)? Is there any ADHD going on, would medication possibly help?

There are lots and lots of options but nothing is going to be a quick solution. Also, it may be helpful to you to read about how females are often able to over compensate to disguise disabilities/learning differences.

Wishing you and your daughter success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds harsh . It’s really likely due to her learning differences. Public schools are out because she can veer towards the wrong crowd. She’s currently boarding and getting bad grades. LD schools don’t seem to offer enough financial aid. What other options do I have if she gets kicked out???

As the parent of a kid with a learning difference: fk you.

Kids with LD aren’t automatically not smart.

My kid has a 136 IQ. Her spatial reasoning and processing speeds are at 99.9th percentile.

Her dyslexia is a neurological difference in how her brain processes the written word. It isn’t indicative of a lack of intelligence.

Another mom of 2e dyslexic/gifted kid saying +1 to this answer.

There are enough “old school” teachers and admins and bosses and whoever else still calling these kids lazy or slow or stupid, they don’t need their parents doing it too.

[Anonymous]

The OP here obviously has issues relating to her kid- the kid is away at boarding school and she still can't not call the kid names.

The poor kid probably has no support.

OP sounds like the not smart one.

[Anonymous]

How can you afford a boarding school, but not a private school with learning supports? That makes no sense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fusion

+1 They do a great job getting kids past the regular school block and on to better things in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if you’re open to Catholic school, but O’Connell and Ireton offer special services for kids who need it.

These Catholic high schools be a tough admit if the child gets kicked out of their boarding school junior year…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you afford a boarding school, but not a private school with learning supports? That makes no sense?

+1 I’m very confused by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds harsh . It’s really likely due to her learning differences. Public schools are out because she can veer towards the wrong crowd. She’s currently boarding and getting bad grades. LD schools don’t seem to offer enough financial aid. What other options do I have if she gets kicked out???

I kind of feel like you need to get to the core of why she's at risk of being kicked out of boarding school. That seems like the more important problem.

I'm also curious why you would choose a boarding school that won't support her academic needs. Isn't that reason enough to "take" her out? Why would you wait for them to "kick" her out?

I don't usually say things like this (because I don't consider paying tuition an excuse for entitlement), but you are paying them...so if this doesn't seem like a good match - I feel like YOU should be pulling her out, not on the edge of your seat wondering if they are going to send her home.

I do wish you the best and hope you can figure out how to support your daughter.