When you judge others, what is usually the first thing you judge them for? Does it differ based on sex/ethnicity/race?

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone judges other people. I’m curious if weight is really number one for most people despite everything else. The more I weighed, the more I was treated in a less friendly manner when dressed casually. This remains interesting to me given how casual the local area dresses post-Covid.

Smell would probably be the one aspect I notice first on others. Men and women equally across my own race and others.


What do you judge others for first? Is it the same if the person is the same sex, gender or nationality/race/culture as you or does it differ?

Piercing, tattoos and odd hair color ( purple, pink, green …)

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Anonymous wrote:Piercings. Any more than 2 simple earrings and you’re dead to me.

Seems pretty extreme ...

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I notice clothes. I like to see a basic effort or I wonder why you don't care enough. I can't stand the guys that still wear their pants down below their underwear - that trend should be long gone. I don't care if someone is heavy or not, just whether their clothes fit them.

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Always the ass

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Anonymous wrote:I notice clothes. I like to see a basic effort or I wonder why you don't care enough. I can't stand the guys that still wear their pants down below their underwear - that trend should be long gone. I don't care if someone is heavy or not, just whether their clothes fit them.

I make an effort but the reality is that even when I do All the Things to make myself look good, I'm still ugly. So I'd rather sleep later and save the money and frustration.

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Anonymous wrote:Always the ass

Same

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The initial appearance is relevant. When you go grocery shopping how a new product’s package looks definitely affects how you feel. But, then you look at the price and the ingredient line and think maybe not.

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Parenting

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I judge how you act, not how you look. It’s how I was raised.

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Anonymous wrote:Parenting

So if someone doesn't have a kid with them they are invisible to you? What if they have a kid with them but the kid is not their child?

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If you look safe.

Really everything else doesn't affect me. Don't care enough to judge.

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Fitness/fatness.

I spend a lot of time working out. Even if you aren't fat, so many people are so out of shape. So many non obese folks with zero definition in their arms and legs who are borderline skinny fat. They'd prob huff and puff running a mile. Honestly, just seeing a fit trim American these days is like spoting a unicorn. Americans are slovenly and don't care about their health. It is sad.

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I judge stupidity over the long-term. Everyone is allowed not to know certain things, or make the occasional weird comment, or have a brain fart, etc. But unless you have an actual cognitive impairment, relentless stupidity is just exhausting to be around.

I have no opinion on race, religion, cuisine, culture, lifestyle, etc. Obviously other people make choices I wouldn't make, but usually they have valid reasons for doing what they do.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone judges other people. I’m curious if weight is really number one for most people despite everything else. The more I weighed, the more I was treated in a less friendly manner when dressed casually. This remains interesting to me given how casual the local area dresses post-Covid.

Smell would probably be the one aspect I notice first on others. Men and women equally across my own race and others.


What do you judge others for first? Is it the same if the person is the same sex, gender or nationality/race/culture as you or does it differ?

Piercing, tattoos and odd hair color ( purple, pink, green …)

+1. Also very revealing clothing or clothing that is way too informal for the event/occasion. I've made my peace with athleisure if done in a cute way (but I still dislike it) but I despise loose sweats and pajamas out in public. I also don't like that weird messy hair bun thing that also looks unbrushed.