That's exactly what I'd expect from someone with generalized discomfort from an ill-fitting bra. |
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I measure myself. It's not hard. I measured DD as well.
Before doing that, I knew exactly what the problem was, but I couldn't find bras my size. I have a small torso, band size, cups and need everything *proportionally* closer together. So a smaller band size with AA cups in a regular brand still isn't going to do it for me. It wasn't until I found this brand, The Little Bra Company, that I got properly fitting bras. Luckily DD has benefited from my years of trying to find the right fit, and I bought her some of those bras right from the start. |
I kind of agree. Sorry, I’m not buying that all the women that were told and had been wearing 34c are now a 28DDD instead! I mean…it sounds more appealing. But most manufacturers don’t even make the sizes that this “a bra that fits” and specialized sizers are coming up with. |
| Yes, Nordstrom. They brought me from a 34B to a 32C. But also showed me lots of suggestions of different kinds. I need fully adjustable straps because I’m very short and have no torso and I don’t like padding, etc. was well worth it to get it done. |
| Yup. I went to a place in downtown DC and she brought me from a 32B to 30C or 30d. Much much more comfortable and flattering! Harder to find that size, though. |
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I went to Sylene years ago after I stopped nursing my last child. I picked that store because I figured older women would shop there(rather than say, Victoria's Secret). I was feeling really embarrassed and uncomfortable with how much volume I had lost and all the other ways my breasts changed. Anyway, I was measured by a woman much younger than me who, on seeing me topless, gasped. She later apologized, but I remember the shame 13 years later.
And it turns out that I was already correctly measuring myself. She did show me that with a little rejiggering and rearranging of my breasts in the cups, I can get the busty look (which I didn't know, I had assumed that was just how some women's bodies were unassisted.) |
That's because most places continue to use the outdated +4 method for fitting where you add 4 inches to the band size, which naturally leaves women with a larger band and a smaller cup than they need. And of course they want to sell bras, so will continue to use those incorrect fitting practices to direct women to the typical sizes available in stores. |
I have been fitted at Trousseau twice and Nordstrom once. I’m around a 38f, so I need help with it. I think every time the measurement size was not the exact size that worked best—apparently that is common when you are on the larger size. |
| I hate bra shopping. The last two times I went I went to Nordstrom, they measured me, brought in 3-4 options that all fit nicely, I picked one in a few colors and was done! So much nicer that browsing the racks trying to find my size. I was at the mall with my husband and kids and they wanted to ride the escalator. I think they only had time to go on it twice. |
That’s true. What’s hard is to know what to do about it. Different brands have different fit models. Different lines use different fabrics and have different features. When my cups runneth over — I might actually have the right size, but need a fuller coverage cut vs a more plunging one. Maybe I need a sturdier fabric. Or the support of seams. Or an underwire. Or different types of straps. It’s not about being “stupid”, it’s about sorting through multiple variables that aren’t standardized. It’s also about working with what you have —when the options available to you don’t actually exist in your correct size. Large band /small cups and small band/large cups are a lot harder to find than 34B. |
| I measured myself and found that I am a 38AA. I have one bra in that size - they're hard to find. I need to lose weight to get the band size down and try again. It's so disheartening when you're built like me, which I think is called brick -- small boobs, but large waist and hips. At least pear shapes have the tiny upper body and apples have big boobs and nice legs. I'm just a ... brick. |
Well, you yourself have identified the issue. Many women don’t have access to bra fitters or the widest possible range of sizes and styles. So a 28DDD tries on multiple sizes and buys the 34 C because it seems to fit, and might never realize that there are better fitting options. Most women aren’t “told” anything. They/we try on what’s available, and, within that, what’s affordable. I finally found my “perfect” bra and accurate bra size. That’s the good news. The flip side is that it’s a not terribly easy to find, relatively expensive, Chantelle bra, so I order them — when I can find them — without being able to try them on first. It’s not as simple as being a perky 34C or 36B who can easily find Balis to try on. Some of us work with what we have available. |
You should remeasure yourself with the A Bra That Fits calculator: https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator.php A true AA is very rare - it essentially mean there is no difference in size between your ribcage and your breast tissue - but can happen with calculators that use the outdated +4 method. |