Hit and run - advice please!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would speak to the detective. This wouldn’t even be a hit and run in the jurisdiction where I work. He stopped and asked if she was ok. There were no injuries, he left. She can’t even prove he touched her. Unless she was in a crosswalk he’s likely not at fault anyway.
So I wouldn’t spend money on a lawyer. Call the detective back and relay his version of events and go from there.

There is probably video. Definitely get a lawyer pronto.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would speak to the detective. This wouldn’t even be a hit and run in the jurisdiction where I work. He stopped and asked if she was ok. There were no injuries, he left. She can’t even prove he touched her. Unless she was in a crosswalk he’s likely not at fault anyway.
So I wouldn’t spend money on a lawyer. Call the detective back and relay his version of events and go from there.

There is probably video. Definitely get a lawyer pronto.

Meant to add, ask your counsel whether you need to advise your auto insurer.

[Anonymous]

it doesn't matter if he clipped her with the window or the "body of the car", and i don't buy the "couldn't find a place to stop". You also don't know if she was hurt or not. She may have "turned away" (wrf?) in oain. Your son had a legal obligation - by virtue of his driver's license - to stop, inquire and exchange info. You are making too many excuses for him while not knowing all of the facts. We know your son is capable of hiding the facts by the fact he tried yo hide this incident from yiu. Yes, there may be a camera. Yes, hire an attorney

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it doesn't matter if he clipped her with the window or the "body of the car", and i don't buy the "couldn't find a place to stop". You also don't know if she was hurt or not. She may have "turned away" (wrf?) in oain. Your son had a legal obligation - by virtue of his driver's license - to stop, inquire and exchange info. You are making too many excuses for him while not knowing all of the facts. We know your son is capable of hiding the facts by the fact he tried yo hide this incident from yiu. Yes, there may be a camera. Yes, hire an attorney

OP isn’t making excuses. She never said her child couldn’t find a place to stop. She said he didn’t find a place to stop. She admitted that her son didn’t know if the victim was hurt. She punished her son. Give her a break. She’s just trying to figure out next steps in a bad situation and looking for advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it doesn't matter if he clipped her with the window or the "body of the car", and i don't buy the "couldn't find a place to stop". You also don't know if she was hurt or not. She may have "turned away" (wrf?) in oain. Your son had a legal obligation - by virtue of his driver's license - to stop, inquire and exchange info. You are making too many excuses for him while not knowing all of the facts. We know your son is capable of hiding the facts by the fact he tried yo hide this incident from yiu. Yes, there may be a camera. Yes, hire an attorney

OP isn’t making excuses. She never said her child couldn’t find a place to stop. She said he didn’t find a place to stop. She admitted that her son didn’t know if the victim was hurt. She punished her son. Give her a break. She’s just trying to figure out next steps in a bad situation and looking for advice.

OP here. I’m not making excuses. Just figuring out how to navigate this situation. I’m well aware her account may be very different from his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it doesn't matter if he clipped her with the window or the "body of the car", and i don't buy the "couldn't find a place to stop". You also don't know if she was hurt or not. She may have "turned away" (wrf?) in oain. Your son had a legal obligation - by virtue of his driver's license - to stop, inquire and exchange info. You are making too many excuses for him while not knowing all of the facts. We know your son is capable of hiding the facts by the fact he tried yo hide this incident from yiu. Yes, there may be a camera. Yes, hire an attorney

OP isn’t making excuses. She never said her child couldn’t find a place to stop. She said he didn’t find a place to stop. She admitted that her son didn’t know if the victim was hurt. She punished her son. Give her a break. She’s just trying to figure out next steps in a bad situation and looking for advice.

OP here. I’m not making excuses. Just figuring out how to navigate this situation. I’m well aware her account may be very different from his.

Get a lawyer. If they're sending a letter it's highly likely there's some type of video evidence from a dashcam/Tesla or nearby security camera of your son hitting her and taking off versus just he said/she said.

He thought she was not hurt (but guess he wouldn’t know for sure) and turned away from him (but he’s not entirely sure). I suspect he panicked given there were cars backed up behind him wanting to leave. He did not find somewhere to stop and return to check on her and give his details.

Do better OP. He's already lied about the situation, "I don't remember mommy" and you assuming the best of intentions is not him taking ownership of this. Your son isn't 5yo or testifying to Congress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reason number 3826193 why teenagers shouldn’t drive.

Because of Karens?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it doesn't matter if he clipped her with the window or the "body of the car", and i don't buy the "couldn't find a place to stop". You also don't know if she was hurt or not. She may have "turned away" (wrf?) in oain. Your son had a legal obligation - by virtue of his driver's license - to stop, inquire and exchange info. You are making too many excuses for him while not knowing all of the facts. We know your son is capable of hiding the facts by the fact he tried yo hide this incident from yiu. Yes, there may be a camera. Yes, hire an attorney

OP isn’t making excuses. She never said her child couldn’t find a place to stop. She said he didn’t find a place to stop. She admitted that her son didn’t know if the victim was hurt. She punished her son. Give her a break. She’s just trying to figure out next steps in a bad situation and looking for advice.

OP here. I’m not making excuses. Just figuring out how to navigate this situation. I’m well aware her account may be very different from his.

At this point, yes, get a lawyer. I think there's a reasonably good chance the police just wants to hear the other side of the story, but if things get more serious, you are really going to wish you had a lawyer involved from the start.

[Anonymous]

Agree with getting a lawyer immediately.

You don't know what kind of person the victim is. It sounds like there are already some early indicators this individual may try and exploit the situation financially by exaggerating her injuries. You need a lawyer to make sure that whatever your kid tells the detective and ends up in his report is not going to result in criminal charges or serve as ammunition for the victim to twist into an overblown civil suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:it doesn't matter if he clipped her with the window or the "body of the car", and i don't buy the "couldn't find a place to stop". You also don't know if she was hurt or not. She may have "turned away" (wrf?) in oain. Your son had a legal obligation - by virtue of his driver's license - to stop, inquire and exchange info. You are making too many excuses for him while not knowing all of the facts. We know your son is capable of hiding the facts by the fact he tried yo hide this incident from yiu. Yes, there may be a camera. Yes, hire an attorney

OP isn’t making excuses. She never said her child couldn’t find a place to stop. She said he didn’t find a place to stop. She admitted that her son didn’t know if the victim was hurt. She punished her son. Give her a break. She’s just trying to figure out next steps in a bad situation and looking for advice.

OP here. I’m not making excuses. Just figuring out how to navigate this situation. I’m well aware her account may be very different from his.

Get a lawyer. If they're sending a letter it's highly likely there's some type of video evidence from a dashcam/Tesla or nearby security camera of your son hitting her and taking off versus just he said/she said.

He thought she was not hurt (but guess he wouldn’t know for sure) and turned away from him (but he’s not entirely sure). I suspect he panicked given there were cars backed up behind him wanting to leave. He did not find somewhere to stop and return to check on her and give his details.

Do better OP. He's already lied about the situation, "I don't remember mommy" and you assuming the best of intentions is not him taking ownership of this. Your son isn't 5yo or testifying to Congress.

This. You ARE making excuses for him by believing his side (daft, not believable) of the story when he's already hidden the fact if the accident from both you and law enforcement

[Anonymous]

Get him a lawyer now. Any one who handles car accidents will do.
It is very important for his future life that it not be a felony hit and run. Even a misdemeanor hit and run conviction can impede his ability to get visa waivers or even time consuming visa applications to places like Japan, Australia, NZ. He needs it not to be charged and get probation at worst.
And he needs to stop driving in the meantime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would speak to the detective. This wouldn’t even be a hit and run in the jurisdiction where I work. He stopped and asked if she was ok. There were no injuries, he left. She can’t even prove he touched her. Unless she was in a crosswalk he’s likely not at fault anyway.
So I wouldn’t spend money on a lawyer. Call the detective back and relay his version of events and go from there.

Why are you offering advice? Everything you’ve said is wrong.

“She can’t even prove he touched her.” - Wrong. She can testify that he did and it would be up to the judge or jury whether they believe her.

“Unless she was in a crosswalk he’s likely not at fault anyways.” - Wrong. Being ‘at fault’ is not an element of a hit and run. Being involved in a collision is.

“Call the detective back and relay his version of events and go from there.” Wrong. A lawyer needs to be involved before you talk to the police. OP’s story would admit liability - she would admit to the collision and would admit to failing to provide information to the complainant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reason number 3826193 why teenagers shouldn’t drive.

Because of Karens?

Objecting to bring hit by a car is hardly being a Karen.