What a joke

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:all of this- coaching, players, teams. promote your child. do the work. trust nobody!

Sir, this is a Wendy's ...

[Anonymous]

Get up, a get down, 911...

[Anonymous]

My kid turned 17 and handled it all himself…let me tell you the sh@t and politics and nepotism and incompetence and favoritism in both HS and club soccer prepared him better for life than anything else.

This kid got screwed over more times than I count and we didn’t fight it each time. Cut, benched, etc. for coach’s son and friends, etc. passed over for promotion by bench kids of donors, etc. just told him something better always comes along…and it always did.

It took until end of senior year in HS. Cream really does find a way to rise to the top.

But, be warned, college soccer is filled with the sane horsesh@t. Thankfully, the backbone and self-worth and grit he developed from not having mommy and daddy up the coaches’ butts or us cozying up and wining and dining the HS coaches paid off, not just in soccer but life. Kids get great confidence from all of this when you let it happen and teach them ways to deal with it and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:all of this- coaching, players, teams. promote your child. do the work. trust nobody!

Sir, this is a Wendy's ...

I lol’d

[Anonymous]

I don't get it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:all of this- coaching, players, teams. promote your child. do the work. trust nobody!

Sir, this is a Wendy's ...

I lol’d

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:all of this- coaching, players, teams. promote your child. do the work. trust nobody!

I agree. We need 11 players on the field, all in it for themselves at all times.

[Anonymous]

Trust nobody lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go Space Force!!!

Peace Corps!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid turned 17 and handled it all himself…let me tell you the sh@t and politics and nepotism and incompetence and favoritism in both HS and club soccer prepared him better for life than anything else.

This kid got screwed over more times than I count and we didn’t fight it each time. Cut, benched, etc. for coach’s son and friends, etc. passed over for promotion by bench kids of donors, etc. just told him something better always comes along…and it always did.

It took until end of senior year in HS. Cream really does find a way to rise to the top.

But, be warned, college soccer is filled with the sane horsesh@t. Thankfully, the backbone and self-worth and grit he developed from not having mommy and daddy up the coaches’ butts or us cozying up and wining and dining the HS coaches paid off, not just in soccer but life. Kids get great confidence from all of this when you let it happen and teach them ways to deal with it and move on.

Let me guess you joysticked your kid through a whole bunch of clubs and teams because they never told you what you wanted to hear .

I’m going to throw you a hypothetical here… Perhaps all of the poorly paid coaches aren’t part of a Snidely Whiplash cabal to ruin just your child. Perhaps they were just being honest?

Persecution complex is a dangerous thing . I’d suggest seeking help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid turned 17 and handled it all himself…let me tell you the sh@t and politics and nepotism and incompetence and favoritism in both HS and club soccer prepared him better for life than anything else.

This kid got screwed over more times than I count and we didn’t fight it each time. Cut, benched, etc. for coach’s son and friends, etc. passed over for promotion by bench kids of donors, etc. just told him something better always comes along…and it always did.

It took until end of senior year in HS. Cream really does find a way to rise to the top.

But, be warned, college soccer is filled with the sane horsesh@t. Thankfully, the backbone and self-worth and grit he developed from not having mommy and daddy up the coaches’ butts or us cozying up and wining and dining the HS coaches paid off, not just in soccer but life. Kids get great confidence from all of this when you let it happen and teach them ways to deal with it and move on.

Let me guess you joysticked your kid through a whole bunch of clubs and teams because they never told you what you wanted to hear .

I’m going to throw you a hypothetical here… Perhaps all of the poorly paid coaches aren’t part of a Snidely Whiplash cabal to ruin just your child. Perhaps they were just being honest?

Persecution complex is a dangerous thing . I’d suggest seeking help.

Wow, who peed in your Cheerios? I gather you missed the entire point of the person’s post. It seems to me what they were saying is that you can’t let people define your potential and good things happen if you keep grinding towards your goals and dreams. Personal persecution seems like a real negative read of the situation.

[Anonymous]

Bingo. You are correct. It’s all what you make it. You can’t trust a coach, team, club, program. Your child has to put in the effort and work. Someone is always there, waiting and working to take your place. Parents will stab each other in the front…if it increases their child’s chances to further develop or better themselves. It’s a joke. You can only laugh at it and realize you have to look out for your child’s future - without trying to damage others along the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bingo. You are correct. It’s all what you make it. You can’t trust a coach, team, club, program. Your child has to put in the effort and work. Someone is always there, waiting and working to take your place. Parents will stab each other in the front…if it increases their child’s chances to further develop or better themselves. It’s a joke. You can only laugh at it and realize you have to look out for your child’s future - without trying to damage others along the way.

It is really quite awful, what parents do to maneuver the system, and coaches too for their favorites. Lot of mind games that are very damaging to young people.

Thankfully, sooner or later, your kid will realize there is more to life than soccer.

It’s makes me personally sad that US soccer is so rife with this kind of thing. Soccer is not what it was. Even if we weren’t good, we still had a lot of heart and learned about being good teammates. Now it’s move on to the next club …

[Anonymous]

Ronaldo and Messi were lucky not to grow up in the US. Unlikely they would have been have as talented or successful. They both grew up without much and their parents would have been easily outmaneuvered by typical US soccer parents with the resources to make sure their kid gets the spot in the team etc.

It’s a shame, honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bingo. You are correct. It’s all what you make it. You can’t trust a coach, team, club, program. Your child has to put in the effort and work. Someone is always there, waiting and working to take your place. Parents will stab each other in the front…if it increases their child’s chances to further develop or better themselves. It’s a joke. You can only laugh at it and realize you have to look out for your child’s future - without trying to damage others along the way.

You do understand that that when you maneuver a spot for your kid, that is damaging another kid (who doesn’t have parents engaged in the politics and whatever else goes on).

Let the process play out. Parents shouldn’t be allowed to be involved. If we could do that, all levels of US soccer would be vastly improved.

[Anonymous]

You can always tell when parents are running the show by looking at a team’s record.

If they can’t win a league or division game, I’m guessing parents have been in the coach’s (or the assistant coach, or the Club’s) ear about who should be on the team, who should start etc.