Anyone with a teen ds who insisted he was straight but came out later?

[Anonymous]

I’m a lesbian mom and I have 1 boy and 1 girl. DS has always been interested in girls and always had some sort of crush or interest since kindergarten. He’s now 16 and has had a girlfriend for a year and is very into her. I’d be very surprised and maybe concerned if he told us he is gay.

DD went through a phase from about 10-12 where she first said she was a lesbian and then nonbinary. I was pretty much like “ok cool” and didn’t give much attention to it. I chalked it up to her being influenced by friends and/or social contagion or maybe she felt that way since she didn’t like boys yet and she didn’t really identify with the popular “girly” girls. At 13 she started becoming more interested in boys and also got into beauty, skin care, hair, products, jewelry, clothes and all that. Not to an extreme, but pretty typical for her age. We will see what happens with her. It doesn’t seem like being in a relationship is very important to her now and she’s not involved in middle school “dating” drama. Hopefully she will stay this way until she is 30.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

My godson as clearly gay and we asked him in middle school but he told us he was straight.

He came out in HS.

I think it’s because his family is Catholic and he didn’t want to deal with grandma and confirmation out.

[Anonymous]

Yes, that makes sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how you would get into a conversation where your child was "insisting" one way or another.

I was in this situation.

Me: Mary’s mom said you’re dating Mary.
Son: the girls on the playground made that decision not me.
Me: oh well you should just be clear that you’re not dating her that’s rude for them to force it.
Son: yea the girls are crazy I’ll “break up” next week.
Me: good plan
Son: well at least they didn’t insist I date a boy since I wouldn’t put it past them.
Me: lol “not that there is anything wrong with that” (seinfeld quote)
Son: I’m clearly gonna date girls when I’m interested

Do you talk to your kids?

[Anonymous]

I had friends in my teens who insisted they were straight, but came out years later, but that was a different time and one was from a strict religious family so it was really tough.

It's awesome you will accept your kid no matter what and that you let your kid know that.