Will homework club even help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will all work out. I wouldn’t worry to much.

Disagree. I wouldn’t assume everything will just work out, some kids have executive functioning issues and/or learning disabilities, and it’s often in middle school when that becomes more obvious as academic demands ramp up. Especially for kids with high IQ, they are often able to compensate earlier so it’s not noticeable.

OP, I would start looking into the possibilities of ADHD or LDs (they often run together). What strikes me as potentially concerning is that your DD had problems with multiple tutors. If you got multiple (presumably reputable) tutors and none were successful working with your kid, it suggests a learning issue of some sort. Certain LDs require different approaches to teaching, and a tutor who is a subject matter expert but not familiar with those might not be the best fit. Good luck!

I feel like too many parents have unrealistic expectations, and end up transferring them onto their kids.

Look, not every kid goes to Harvard.

Some kids - maybe most - are not even cut out for a 4-year degree. And that is fine!

Stop pressuring and helicoptering your poor kids!

[Anonymous]

What are the problems your DD is having with homework? A certain subject (math comes to mind), trouble getting organized or can't get it done in a reasonable manner?.Do you know anyone who uses the after school club? There might be a teacher involved, but she is on her phone the whole time and not actually helping. Your post is too vague.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will all work out. I wouldn’t worry to much.

lol

Until it doesn’t

Like now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will all work out. I wouldn’t worry to much.

Disagree. I wouldn’t assume everything will just work out, some kids have executive functioning issues and/or learning disabilities, and it’s often in middle school when that becomes more obvious as academic demands ramp up. Especially for kids with high IQ, they are often able to compensate earlier so it’s not noticeable.

OP, I would start looking into the possibilities of ADHD or LDs (they often run together). What strikes me as potentially concerning is that your DD had problems with multiple tutors. If you got multiple (presumably reputable) tutors and none were successful working with your kid, it suggests a learning issue of some sort. Certain LDs require different approaches to teaching, and a tutor who is a subject matter expert but not familiar with those might not be the best fit. Good luck!

I feel like too many parents have unrealistic expectations, and end up transferring them onto their kids.

Look, not every kid goes to Harvard.

Some kids - maybe most - are not even cut out for a 4-year degree. And that is fine!

Stop pressuring and helicoptering your poor kids!

Yes, relax!! Do nothing! What will be will be.

[Anonymous]

OP - why such pressure on your DD?

Putting too much pressure on her might be a big part of the problem.