What to do for 7th grader who feels 'invisible'?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aww I'm sorry to hear that ❤️ Does he do extracurriculars? Any team sports or martial arts?

He is involved in an out-of-school choir and plays trumpet in the school band. (Feels lots of good vibes/success with both). Occasional parkour. He kind of hates team sports despite all of my pushing to do them over the years....does cross country, swim, and track practices for the exercise.

choose social activities eCs where he can be around an entirely different group and have a social outlet. scouts? or allow personality development. theater?

do you do cool things? have him join w your cool friends

go to summer camp

those activities dont do that. if he is confident, has social release/belonging outside school even once a week and is cool its fine. will build character. just focus on matching HS and developing EQ, prob a bunch of dorks at school anyway. exercise is vy imp

[Anonymous]

*those activities you listed dont so that. choir and band were not that fraternal when i was in school. try scouts, w a different set of people.

[Anonymous]

I'd definitely try to get him to join a club that interests him. He will meet kids he doesn't already know but share interests with him. That will automatically create an environment where he is more inclined to talk etc.

My daughter is fairly outgoing but in one of her classes in 6th grade she didn't know a single person and dreaded it every day. She then overheard a couple girls talking about horse riding and by the end of the year it was her favorite class since she got to hang out with other girls who had the same hobby.

Elementary school tends to create friendships by proximity/convenience. By middle school friendships morph because kids start seeking out other kids who have the same interests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*those activities you listed dont so that. choir and band were not that fraternal when i was in school. try scouts, w a different set of people.

Scouts are for pedophiles and homophobes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd definitely try to get him to join a club that interests him. He will meet kids he doesn't already know but share interests with him. That will automatically create an environment where he is more inclined to talk etc.

My daughter is fairly outgoing but in one of her classes in 6th grade she didn't know a single person and dreaded it every day. She then overheard a couple girls talking about horse riding and by the end of the year it was her favorite class since she got to hang out with other girls who had the same hobby.

Elementary school tends to create friendships by proximity/convenience. By middle school friendships morph because kids start seeking out other kids who have the same interests.

+1. Friendships in MS and beyond are by choice not always proximity. Proximity helps. It’s also a time in shakeup of friend groups because kids develop their existing interest and also develop new ones.

If he has a couple of friends as you indicate, I would start by understanding why he feels invisible. Not everyone is super social and has large friend groups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:*those activities you listed dont so that. choir and band were not that fraternal when i was in school. try scouts, w a different set of people.

Scouts are for pedophiles and homophobes

You clearly don't know anything about Scouting America, formerly Scouts BSA, do you?