Unmatched me on Hinge but still going on dates

[Anonymous]

Im a woman and I sometimes unmatch with people when we have started talking off of the app. It makes it easier for me to keep track of who I am talking to etc.

Just ask him though! If this one question is the dealbreaker for him, you weren’t a match to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op: he’s still online. My friend saw him - I had shared his pic when I first went out with him to see if she had gone out with him. I honestly don’t care that he’s going on dates. I am too. The issue is that it’s a shady thing to do. I would not have done that. I’ve never done that. Seems odd and like a red flag I should keep in mind.

How is it shady?
What value is in staying matched?

[Anonymous]

He doesn't want you to see when he makes changes to his profile. It's a give away that he's still out there looking and you're just a placeholder. Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the issue. He is going on dates with you and with other people. You are going on dates with him and with other people. Why does it matter what app he uses (or you use) or what you can see or not see? You must have shared off app contact information by now. Why do you still need to be connected on the app?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't want you to see when he makes changes to his profile. It's a give away that he's still out there looking and you're just a placeholder. Sorry, OP.

Did you miss that they are both dating other people and are both still out there looking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, I'm going on dates with a man from Hinge but I noticed he unmatched with me. We have another date planned. I don't care if he changed his profile, pictures, etc. We're not exclusively dating. This unmatching seems sneaky and to me a red flag. I don't get a good feeling from it. I've wasted time with people before and I don't want to do that again. What are your thoughts? I shouldn't have to train this guy about online dating etiquette. Thanks.

Unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't want you to see when he makes changes to his profile. It's a give away that he's still out there looking and you're just a placeholder. Sorry, OP.

Could be this. I like being able to see when people change the words or photos. That means they're still on the market.

I almost never unmatch people but other people unmatch me all the time after a date or two, even if they still want to see me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are always looking for the smallest reason to end the relationship. Men are looking for the smallest reason to continue the relationship.

This. OP stated they are nto dating exclusively.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women are always looking for the smallest reason to end the relationship. Men are looking for the smallest reason to continue the relationship.

This. OP stated they are nto dating exclusively.

+1

They are not exclusive. Nothing shady here at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are always looking for the smallest reason to end the relationship. Men are looking for the smallest reason to continue the relationship.

Yep

[Anonymous]

What does this mean?