is $100 enough for a graduate gift?

[Anonymous]

I'm just generally annoyed about kids and thank you notes. I'm the executor of my dads estate. He left his friends kids $10K each. I sent the the checks with a note about what each kid meant to my dad. The checks cleared. Not a word from the kids or their parents--no acknowledgement, no thank you, no text. If the check hadn't cleared, I would be wondering if they received it.

[Anonymous]

Next time consider gifting a box of thank you notes with envelopes and stamps accompanied by instructions on assembly along with an information pamphlet on how to use the US Postal system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just generally annoyed about kids and thank you notes. I'm the executor of my dads estate. He left his friends kids $10K each. I sent the the checks with a note about what each kid meant to my dad. The checks cleared. Not a word from the kids or their parents--no acknowledgement, no thank you, no text. If the check hadn't cleared, I would be wondering if they received it.

That is appalling. Sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds sweet.

[Anonymous]

If someone gave me a quarter, I'd still have been made to send a thank you note, and I had the kind of parents who wrote down exactly who gave how much. $100 is perfectly respectable. That person's manners are not (and I'm not even from the South!).

[Anonymous]

More than enough, OP. And please stop expecting thank you notes! No one has done this for years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is plenty.

Thank you notes have gone out of style among many. I’d say we get a thank you note maybe 50% of the time for the grad gifts.

Good manners are never out of style and, frequently, make a huge difference of succeeding in life. I had several applicants for a position and they were comparable for education, experience, and references. The one who sent a thank you letter was hired.

I have only agreed with Clarence Thomas once: "Good manners will open doors that the best education will not." I confess that I judge by manners both adults and children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just generally annoyed about kids and thank you notes. I'm the executor of my dads estate. He left his friends kids $10K each. I sent the the checks with a note about what each kid meant to my dad. The checks cleared. Not a word from the kids or their parents--no acknowledgement, no thank you, no text. If the check hadn't cleared, I would be wondering if they received it.

So sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More than enough, OP. And please stop expecting thank you notes! No one has done this for years!

Only those who are rude AF!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people just dont write thank you notes anymore.

+1. Don’t take it personally.