Frustrated with aging single parent

[Anonymous]

OP I mean this in the kindest possible way, but you're attempting to micro-manage her. The detail in your opening statement is practically OCD level stuff.

Deep breath, step back, you can't fix this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait till you are 73 or 74. If in good shape you might feel differently about 75 as a cutoff.

I doubt it. You must be one of those people who tell others they will change their mind about having kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait till you are 73 or 74. If in good shape you might feel differently about 75 as a cutoff.

I doubt it. You must be one of those people who tell others they will change their mind about having kids.

I used to think 75 was old. Now that's 2 years off. 90 that's old, lol. Or 87. It's relative.

I never wanted or had kids. Generalization is tricky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Generalization is tricky.

Oh, the irony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A saving grace is Medicare.
Medicare will require a discharge plan before she can leave hospital.
Hospital will get social workers involved. Care or placing in facility will get arranged.
The thing is for you NOT to get involved or get assumed into discharge plan. Be a broken record: no I cannot stay with her I must care for my children. No I cannot take her into my home. No I cannot coordinate her home care.

I think that some states require kids to take responsibility for parent. It’s been a few years since I was dealing with this, but Google is your friend.

[Anonymous]

Do you resent her for being a single mom and not having a husband to deal with this? I don't get how that's relevant at all. It sounds like you have a lot of unresolved anger with her for a lot of reasons. And yes, you should think of her. Do you really want what may be your last days with her to be filled with your resentment and anger?

[Anonymous]

She is 80 ffs. She may avoid doctors because it can mean over treatment, huge bills and getting caught up in the medical jungle that may decide she can’t live by herself and make decisions. Let her live her life out

[Anonymous]

Yeah, she may avoid doctors like the PP says, because once you start going at her age, you'll go until you die and spend all your wealth on it.