Narcissist reaction to life event

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. My now dead mom was a narc to her very core. Attempted and/or ruined every single family gathering and made it all about herself.

Is this HER family and relatives coming in for a milestone event?

She can sit in the hotel room alone for the entire weekend. Please keep to your plans and do not carve out one second for her. In this situation my mom would end up having “a health emergency” before/during/after big event with urgent phone calls, messages and maybe even transport by ambulance (I’m not kidding). Block her calls.

I’m in therapy by the way.

NP here and my mom is still living and did the same stuff. I actually lied annd didn’t invite her to my DD’s first communion because it’s the first life event that DD is old enough to notice how my mom acts. I know I’m a bad person. It resulted in tons of anger and screaming from my mom, but it was really special to have a major life event without doctors’ visits, hours spent talking about calling 911, and missing parts of dinner our to sit with her at urgent care or return her to the house for sinus infections/migraines/etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. My now dead mom was a narc to her very core. Attempted and/or ruined every single family gathering and made it all about herself.

Is this HER family and relatives coming in for a milestone event?

She can sit in the hotel room alone for the entire weekend. Please keep to your plans and do not carve out one second for her. In this situation my mom would end up having “a health emergency” before/during/after big event with urgent phone calls, messages and maybe even transport by ambulance (I’m not kidding). Block her calls.

I’m in therapy by the way.

NP here and my mom is still living and did the same stuff. I actually lied annd didn’t invite her to my DD’s first communion because it’s the first life event that DD is old enough to notice how my mom acts. I know I’m a bad person. It resulted in tons of anger and screaming from my mom, but it was really special to have a major life event without doctors’ visits, hours spent talking about calling 911, and missing parts of dinner our to sit with her at urgent care or return her to the house for sinus infections/migraines/etc.

You are not a bad person, your mom is a bad person. You did nothing wrong, but of course, narc parent convinced you that you are the cause of everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any reason you can’t use your words, OP?

Ah, we found our dcum narc. Tear down everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any reason you can’t use your words, OP?

Found the person who's blessed enough to have never even encountered a narcissist. SMH.