Want to embrace going gray but my graying hair is ugly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a dark brunette with a patch of white hairs developing at one temple, just like my mother. After some thought, I decided to henna and indigo my hair.

I do it at home, the price is negligible, but the time and effort is moderate. I need a day to do it properly at home every month and a half, although I usually stretch it out to once every 2 months because I'm lazy. The henna adds a barely visible reddish luster to my very dark brown hair, and the indigo only shows on my white hairs, by temporarily coloring them a lighter reddish brown. Indigo is a natural blue-black dye that sticks to the red henna dye, and it's the henna that sticks to your hair. Since the transfer isn't 100%, my white hairs don't take the color completely, but they are hidden satisfactorily. The overall effect is that my hair seems to have a subtle variety of dark brown and bronze shades. I love it.

Henna is permanent and doesn't mix with salon colors, so if you decide to do that, you cannot get it corrected with artificial dyes. You'd have to wait until it grows out. Indigo fades with time, but my roots show up anyway, which is why I need to dye every couple of months.

Can you link to the products you use?

The brand is Just Jaivik, I get the henna and indigo powders separately, on Amazon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to apply a good color to the wiry grays in order to return their texture to their original state. You can buy a clear color at Sally's and apply it with a Volume 20 developer. You may also need to use a purple or blue shampoo to keep the gray hair from looking yellow/brassy.

What color does this turn the hair? I know nothing about developer and doing things at Sally’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, greys are a different texture often. And yeah, some people look a lot worse with grey hair. I'm one of them. People have asked if I'm sick, assumed I'm a DECADE older, etc. I'll be dying my hair until I die.

This often gets missed in the conversation (and judgment on both sides). If you have gorgeous, thick silver hair it’s easy to go gray. If you have patchy, wiry streaks that are flat in tone, then that’s harder. No, I never wanted a mom bob, but my fine, thin hair doesn’t leave many options. Not gray enough to know what I’ll look like without coloring, but it will depend on how it actually looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, greys are a different texture often. And yeah, some people look a lot worse with grey hair. I'm one of them. People have asked if I'm sick, assumed I'm a DECADE older, etc. I'll be dying my hair until I die.

Same. My formerly dark brown now gray hair comes in almost translucent so I look like I’m balding. My hair is also thinning post-menopause so my only hope for looking normal is dying my hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the replies. I’m not necessarily interested in all over color. More like some face framing silver highlights. But does that involve bleaching?

Sort of like the woman on this page here with the header: Subtle Silver Highlights in Black Hair

https://www.floeyeliner.com/health-beauty/silver-highlights-gray-blending-ideas/

About 8 scrolls down. What does this sort of look entail? It is so pretty, unlike my hair.

These are all beautiful, and look like they cost a fortune in time and money to maintain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, greys are a different texture often. And yeah, some people look a lot worse with grey hair. I'm one of them. People have asked if I'm sick, assumed I'm a DECADE older, etc. I'll be dying my hair until I die.

This often gets missed in the conversation (and judgment on both sides). If you have gorgeous, thick silver hair it’s easy to go gray. If you have patchy, wiry streaks that are flat in tone, then that’s harder. No, I never wanted a mom bob, but my fine, thin hair doesn’t leave many options. Not gray enough to know what I’ll look like without coloring, but it will depend on how it actually looks.

Very true. I can count on the fingers of one hand the women I know with gorgeous grey hair. The rest have to dye, or accept they look at least 10 years older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to apply a good color to the wiry grays in order to return their texture to their original state. You can buy a clear color at Sally's and apply it with a Volume 20 developer. You may also need to use a purple or blue shampoo to keep the gray hair from looking yellow/brassy.

Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't help with color but I recently discovered this frizz tamer for the grey hair at my roots that makes it look frizzy. It's cheap, easy to apply and it works!

https://www.cvs.com/shop/garnier-fructis-sleek-and-shine-frizz-tamer-0-27-oz-prodid-827034

Oh! I didn't know about this product. I use Garnier Sleek and Shine for taming flyaways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, greys are a different texture often. And yeah, some people look a lot worse with grey hair. I'm one of them. People have asked if I'm sick, assumed I'm a DECADE older, etc. I'll be dying my hair until I die.

Same. My formerly dark brown now gray hair comes in almost translucent so I look like I’m balding. My hair is also thinning post-menopause so my only hope for looking normal is dying my hair.

So..what color are you dying it? Because that root line will age you so much.