In-laws don't remember my kids' birthdays

[Anonymous]

In law siblings?! Rude but I would just do unto them as they do unto you.

We have 3 out of 4 grandparents who dont call or send a birthday gift for our kid sooooo And yes, all 4 are alive.

But they all want Thanksgiving and Christmas and Easter (major holidays) spent with them on the exact date while we pay for everything (hosting and food).

[Anonymous]

I have 3 siblings, one with a grown child and the other two childless. My kids have never once gotten a happy birthday message or gift (Christmas, birthday, etc.) from one of my siblings. It’s odd to me but it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

I put birthdays in my Google calendar on yearly repeat and a 10 day notification.
I think our niece and nephew are pleased we "remember" with cards. Google does the hard part,,lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has two sisters, each of whom have two kids apiece. DH always acknowledges their birthdays.
They almost always forget our kids' birthdays.
I don't get it. It makes me sad. My kids don't care. I don't stew on it, but...I notice it. (Yes, yesterday was my DD's birthday.)
Anyhow. I guess here is a safe place to put my vent.

I get it, OP but please don't consider this a safe space. There are too many awful people here for it to be safe.

[Anonymous]

I barely remember my own birthday. Get over it, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 3 siblings, one with a grown child and the other two childless. My kids have never once gotten a happy birthday message or gift (Christmas, birthday, etc.) from one of my siblings. It’s odd to me but it is what it is.

How often do your kids send well
Wishes for the holidays to your siblings and their children? Or do you expect so much from your siblings because they’re “not in the trenches” like you are?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH has two sisters, each of whom have two kids apiece. DH always acknowledges their birthdays.
They almost always forget our kids' birthdays.
I don't get it. It makes me sad. My kids don't care. I don't stew on it, but...I notice it. (Yes, yesterday was my DD's birthday.)
Anyhow. I guess here is a safe place to put my vent.

I get it, OP but please don't consider this a safe space. There are too many awful people here for it to be safe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH has two sisters, each of whom have two kids apiece. DH always acknowledges their birthdays.
They almost always forget our kids' birthdays.
I don't get it. It makes me sad. My kids don't care. I don't stew on it, but...I notice it. (Yes, yesterday was my DD's birthday.)
Anyhow. I guess here is a safe place to put my vent.

I get it, OP but please don't consider this a safe space. There are too many awful people here for it to be safe.

Awful is considering that your children are more important than a childless person’s time or life. It’s rating a childless persons engagement with your children as awful, while probably having never maintained a relationship with that person because you judge them as selfish for 1. Not having kids or 2. Not seeing your kids as the second coming.


Tale as old as time. You don’t get to demand a relationship for your kids if you are not willing to also
Put the work into the other person.

[Anonymous]

Op I think what you are seeing is that this is quite common and therefore you should not take it as a personal slight. I have lots of nieces and nephews that I love and would be there for them if they needed me but I rarely remember their birthdays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I barely remember my own birthday. Get over it, OP.

Are you a child? Or just childish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH has two sisters, each of whom have two kids apiece. DH always acknowledges their birthdays.
They almost always forget our kids' birthdays.
I don't get it. It makes me sad. My kids don't care. I don't stew on it, but...I notice it. (Yes, yesterday was my DD's birthday.)
Anyhow. I guess here is a safe place to put my vent.

I get it, OP but please don't consider this a safe space. There are too many awful people here for it to be safe.

Awful is considering that your children are more important than a childless person’s time or life. It’s rating a childless persons engagement with your children as awful, while probably having never maintained a relationship with that person because you judge them as selfish for 1. Not having kids or 2. Not seeing your kids as the second coming.


Tale as old as time. You don’t get to demand a relationship for your kids if you are not willing to also
Put the work into the other person.

Are you ok or are you always so unhinged? Whatever the case, you seem to be projecting your crap on OP since what you posted isn’t remotely what OP said.

[Anonymous]

Birthdays aren't as big a deal in some families. My parents barely acknowledged my birthday growing up. They just weren't considered important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tell my siblings when a birthday is coming up. No big deal.

Why?

[Anonymous]

You're not close, let it go or you'll be unhappy for years to come.

What matters is that YOU celebrate your own kid's birthday, that's all they need.

The real problem here is not that they forget to wish someone's birthday, it's that you guys are not close and somehow you wish it were different.

[Anonymous]

Let it go.