Wedding Gift $ amount?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always do a $75 gift card to somewhere nice like Olive Garden or chilis.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We always do a $75 gift card to somewhere nice like Olive Garden or chilis.

$75 makes you look cheap, do $50 or $100, never $25 or $75.

[Anonymous]

Family of 4, minimum $250, could go up to $500 depending on how close you are.

As you can see, there is a wild variety of answers. Whatever you give, it will be enough. The couple really wants your presence, not your presents. Yes, really.

[Anonymous]

We were recently invited to a wedding of close friends in the DMV area- 4 adults (couple and 2 adult children), we gave $500.

[Anonymous]

DCUM hates this… but the etiquette is really “pay for your plate.” So it depends on the type of wedding. Backyard affair? $200 for a family of 4. Black tie evening affair? At least $500.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op-jewish, family friends for many years. Not super close.

Is it a nice wedding? I’d probably do $540.

[Anonymous]

I married a Jewish guy in Baltimore 25 years ago. The Jewish couples gave $250-$300. So, I think with four adults you need to do at least $500.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM hates this… but the etiquette is really “pay for your plate.” So it depends on the type of wedding. Backyard affair? $200 for a family of 4. Black tie evening affair? At least $500.

Only for low class weddings. Anyone throwing a wedding with any class doesn’t care at all what gifts are given.

Do you expect money when you throw a fancy holiday party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM hates this… but the etiquette is really “pay for your plate.” So it depends on the type of wedding. Backyard affair? $200 for a family of 4. Black tie evening affair? At least $500.

That's not etiquette. It's the custom in certain geographies (NYC, Long Island) - but is it proper etiquette? No, it is not.

https://www.cnbc.com/2018/05/22/when-buying-a-wedding-gift-you-dont-have-to-cover-your-plate.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM hates this… but the etiquette is really “pay for your plate.” So it depends on the type of wedding. Backyard affair? $200 for a family of 4. Black tie evening affair? At least $500.

Only for low class weddings. Anyone throwing a wedding with any class doesn’t care at all what gifts are given. Do you expect money when you throw a fancy holiday party?

Wouldn't it be reasonable to think anyone with class throwing a wedding would only invite people who also have class? Class enough that they wouldn't give $75 when a family of four was attending?

[Anonymous]

I'll add to the chorus of $500 (total, for your whole family).

[Anonymous]

Is there a registry? Some Jewish weddings do have them. We gave $500 worth of stuff for 2 adults.

[Anonymous]

How old are these adult children? Old enough to be responsible for their own gifts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DCUM hates this… but the etiquette is really “pay for your plate.” So it depends on the type of wedding. Backyard affair? $200 for a family of 4. Black tie evening affair? At least $500.

Only for low class weddings. Anyone throwing a wedding with any class doesn’t care at all what gifts are given. Do you expect money when you throw a fancy holiday party?

Wouldn't it be reasonable to think anyone with class throwing a wedding would only invite people who also have class? Class enough that they wouldn't give $75 when a family of four was attending?

Maybe…but they wouldn’t give a flying f**k if people gave anything at all.

That’s the difference…and they certainly would t utter the phrase “cover your plate”.

Again…do you expect your guests to “cover their plate” at a holiday party? Sounds like you do.

[Anonymous]

I would do $100 but we aren’t well off.