Ideal first date

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Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman

What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.

I rarely drink and would be fine dating someone who didn't drink at all. I know it wouldn't work for some people, but I'd never date someone who smoked no matter how otherwise compatible they were with me, so we all have our rules. Someone who wouldn't date you because you don't drink just isn't a good match for you, and that's ok.

Ridiculous rules.

OK. You do you. I can't stand to be around smokers. It's a disgusting habit and I'd never be with someone who did it. Why do you care? I'm sure some people wouldn't date me because I'm X (fill in the blank) and that's fine with me. People who don't respect other people's rules are aholes. But you know that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman

You are right. The batting cage is a good third date once you know it’s a good fit.

[Anonymous]

April 25

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:April 25

Lol. I remembered that from the movie but wouldn't have recalled the exact date without looking it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drink or coffee at a convenient place and time.

Imo the second date is really the first “date.”

100%

[Anonymous]

I would never date a smoker. Or someone overweight.

[Anonymous]

Weekday, feels like less pressure, meet at the bar of a quiet restaurant around six, if things appear to be going well you can grab a table and start judging table manners.

Had a date like this and we stayed until they started to put the chairs up.

[Anonymous]

I like coffee/walk or lunch. Drinks sometimes result in the woman saying dumb stuff. But I'll meet at a bar if that's what she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman

What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.

I rarely drink and would be fine dating someone who didn't drink at all. I know it wouldn't work for some people, but I'd never date someone who smoked no matter how otherwise compatible they were with me, so we all have our rules. Someone who wouldn't date you because you don't drink just isn't a good match for you, and that's ok.

Ridiculous rules.

It’s not ridiculous at all. I would never live with a smoker or have children with one or even kiss one so I won’t date one either. It’s disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anything but coffee.

[Anonymous]

Best first date I ever went on was sledding during Snowmaggedon.

[Anonymous]

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What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....i

You sound high maintenance. Bars offer mocktails and soft drinks of course. Heck, I have a friend who can't drink (due to medicine) but likes the taste of beer, so he orders zero-alcohol beer.

If you can't navigate ordering a non-alcoholic drink at a bar, I wonder how you'd handle other situations. Man up already!

[Anonymous]

Don’t care so long as I get to smash and then ghost.

[Anonymous]

A drink on the patio at Opaline. Great people watching if he is boring.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Drinks at a bar. First date, I want the option to be out in an hour if it’s not a good fit. Date 2, dinner. Date 3 is a good time for something fun/creative like a batting cage.

—Straight woman

What about for those of us men who don't consume alcohol 😔....I already feel left out because everything with my friends has to involve alcohol....it's one of the reason I'm divorced today DW wanted to drink every weekend and I just wanted to do something not involving alcohol.. I hope when I am ready to date again women won't find me weird for not indulging in any alcohol at all.

I don't care if you get a coke or a mocktail. Just don't look at me judge-y if I order a cocktail. I hate coffee dates. They never lead to a second date. They are not sexy.