Paying for gas

[Anonymous]

We taught our kids that when they borrow anyone's car, the proper thing to do is return it with a full tank of gas. The exception is if it's late at night, in which case the next day they should offer to go put in gas or offer up money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:y'all are petty.

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Is the thought that you were teaching them something by making them pay $10 for a few extra gallons of gas per month?

Fur us, we already lost, when we over indulged by giving him a car to drive to school. Insurance fir a teen is $150 a month. We pay for $$$ for their sneakers or backpack. We are past “need”. We will Draw the line somewhere else.

My kid drives to school and practices which is the biggest blessing and time saver for me. They also meet friends at the mall or for dinner, and even go out if their way to be the responsible ride for a friend. They put in gas and I reimburse.

I do show them the price of the annual car maintenance or the new tires. This teaches them that driving the car is not free and allows them to be grateful that I am able to pay and allow them to have this privilege. This is the same thing I do when they want the more expensive backpack or sneakers. I think teaching gratitude for caring parents who are willing to spend on them is the best lesson. I’d hate to teach them that I’m okay giving the Uber driver an extra $5 “just because” but I can’t to my own kid.

This is not remotely how gratitude is taught. You sound like someone who grew up poor and is now overindulging your child to make up for your own childhood disappointments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:y'all are petty.

+1
Is the thought that you were teaching them something by making them pay $10 for a few extra gallons of gas per month?

Fur us, we already lost, when we over indulged by giving him a car to drive to school. Insurance fir a teen is $150 a month. We pay for $$$ for their sneakers or backpack. We are past “need”. We will Draw the line somewhere else.

My kid drives to school and practices which is the biggest blessing and time saver for me. They also meet friends at the mall or for dinner, and even go out if their way to be the responsible ride for a friend. They put in gas and I reimburse.

I do show them the price of the annual car maintenance or the new tires. This teaches them that driving the car is not free and allows them to be grateful that I am able to pay and allow them to have this privilege. This is the same thing I do when they want the more expensive backpack or sneakers. I think teaching gratitude for caring parents who are willing to spend on them is the best lesson. I’d hate to teach them that I’m okay giving the Uber driver an extra $5 “just because” but I can’t to my own kid.

You are right about one thing. You’ve already lost.

Np. You’re a judgmental prick who prob shouldn’t be lecturing others on how to raise kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:y'all are petty.

+1
Is the thought that you were teaching them something by making them pay $10 for a few extra gallons of gas per month?

Fur us, we already lost, when we over indulged by giving him a car to drive to school. Insurance fir a teen is $150 a month. We pay for $$$ for their sneakers or backpack. We are past “need”. We will Draw the line somewhere else.

My kid drives to school and practices which is the biggest blessing and time saver for me. They also meet friends at the mall or for dinner, and even go out if their way to be the responsible ride for a friend. They put in gas and I reimburse.

I do show them the price of the annual car maintenance or the new tires. This teaches them that driving the car is not free and allows them to be grateful that I am able to pay and allow them to have this privilege. This is the same thing I do when they want the more expensive backpack or sneakers. I think teaching gratitude for caring parents who are willing to spend on them is the best lesson. I’d hate to teach them that I’m okay giving the Uber driver an extra $5 “just because” but I can’t to my own kid.

You are right about one thing. You’ve already lost.

Np. You’re a judgmental prick who prob shouldn’t be lecturing others on how to raise kids.

You are correct that I am judgmental of pp but I am also right.

[Anonymous]

Our two kids share a car and we pay for one tank a month (they drive to/from school which is less than a mile each way) and to their PT jobs that are 3 miles from the house (they work 2 days/week - the same days)

If they go through that tank they need to use their money to refill it until the next month.

I would like to have them contribute more to have more skin in the gam but my husband disagrees so this is where we are.

[Anonymous]

We have 2 teens and both have cars. We pay for everything for both including gas. They mainly use it to go to school and work but sometimes they drive somewhere for fun. I'm not going to nickle and dime my kid over gas money. It's not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things.

I'm sure according to some I'm raising non functional adults. Ehh, I'm ok if you see it that way. They're both working and saving money in their investment accounts which they will one day hopefully use for a down payment for their first house.

[Anonymous]

We pay for everything car related. My kid driving themselves, in their own car is a convenience for me.

My kid drives to school, practice, errands, and social outings that otherwise I would be doing. Drives a sibling whenever available. Luckily, she’s not into driving around as an activity, which I did in HS!

[Anonymous]

My son pays about 1/2 of the time. I don’t expect him to pay for gas if he’s running normal errands or driving places I would be taking him if he didn’t have a license. But if he’s driving all around just because, and he does this and I can see it on Life360, I’m not going to pay for that. The license is still fairly new so he’s driving more. We want to teach him some responsibility. We are also giving him a lot more to do to earn money at inflated rates around the house or DS’s business while he looks for a job.

[Anonymous]

Child will sometimes fill up the car, but we most often do it because they drive their sibling around a lot and it is a huge help

[Anonymous]

We share a car and DC rarely drives so no. It would be a nickel and dime situation for us. DC rides school bus so not one of those kids driving to school by choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:y'all are petty.

+1
Is the thought that you were teaching them something by making them pay $10 for a few extra gallons of gas per month?

Fur us, we already lost, when we over indulged by giving him a car to drive to school. Insurance fir a teen is $150 a month. We pay for $$$ for their sneakers or backpack. We are past “need”. We will Draw the line somewhere else.

My kid drives to school and practices which is the biggest blessing and time saver for me. They also meet friends at the mall or for dinner, and even go out if their way to be the responsible ride for a friend. They put in gas and I reimburse.

I do show them the price of the annual car maintenance or the new tires. This teaches them that driving the car is not free and allows them to be grateful that I am able to pay and allow them to have this privilege. This is the same thing I do when they want the more expensive backpack or sneakers. I think teaching gratitude for caring parents who are willing to spend on them is the best lesson. I’d hate to teach them that I’m okay giving the Uber driver an extra $5 “just because” but I can’t to my own kid.

You are right about one thing. You’ve already lost.

Np. You’re a judgmental prick who prob shouldn’t be lecturing others on how to raise kids.

You are correct that I am judgmental of pp but I am also right.

You’re not. I went to school with the fort poor (like me) up to trust fund babies. And the ones with the trusts were as grateful, kind, hard of workers - if not more so- than those who scraped by.

So your opinion is just that. And not a very good one.

[Anonymous]

He pays for gas. You can give allowance or pay for chores if you want (such as if he is working seriously at the internship -- but why isn't it paid?!)

[Anonymous]

Our family rule is that no one can bring a car home with less than a quarter of a tank. I care less about the money or amount of gas used and more about teaching the kids how to be helpful, responsible members of a multi-person household.

[Anonymous]

I literally cannot imagine having a teenager so entitled as to assume we just pay for literally everything for them up to and including voluntary social outings and purchases. My teens are smart, helpful and hardworking and want to contribute. I could not be more proud of them.

[Anonymous]

We pay.