Hugs to you! It really sucks, to be honest. I’m happy other people enjoy the “freedom” but it just feels lonely (and unnatural) to me. You are not alone! |
| It absolutely sucks. When they are in college, it's not awful because they do come home alot, but mine will be graduating college next year and the thought of them not considering our house HOME is an awfully lonely feeling. Both kids will LIKELY be nearby as they want to stay in the DC area (we are about one hour out of DC), but still. |
| Lots and lots of sex |
| DW and I are blessed that all of our three kids decided to attend college locally. Our 22 years old DS just recently graduated from GMU, CS major, and has a good paying job but he will live at home for the next three years to save 100% of his earnings before moving out. Our 21 years old daughter will probably go to medical school after graduating from GMU (took her MCAT and scored 523) so we still have her for the next 14 months. Our 18 years old DS just finished his freshman year at GMU so he will be with us for another three years before heading off to dental school. I can't imagine not having them around but that day will come. In the meantime, DW and I just got two new puppies to keep ourselves busy. YMMV. |
| I wish I could quit my job but we have college to pay for our two sons. My job is not too flexible so I'll be working as usual and missing my boys tremendously. |
| For us highschool was a dry run for life after kids. They were so busy with school, sports and jobs that we really only saw them for a hour or two a day. Once they left for college it wasn’t that big of a deal. When they come back after college (I’m guessing that hasn’t happened yet) that will be a big adjustment |
| This is why I started talking up GMU since my kids were 3. |
| Short term thoughts: Parent weekend, fall break, Thanksgiving break, then Christmas break. Basically, every few weeks you will see them. Focus on something that you want to do this year. Do you have any hobbies? Not having to schedule your life around their sport schedule and events is nice. |
It's my husband and me, not my husband and I. Learn some grammar. |
After 20+ years of marriage, I'd rather sleep... |
Let’s be real. How many women married for 20 some years are really clamoring for this? |
+1 |
+1. The time for this is when you’re young, kids or no kids. |
| It’s sad. It’s not the same. Your family unit will change. Enjoy it while they are young. Then just accept the inevitable. Your life will be very different. |
My kids had a blast going away to school - worked hard but also so much fun, great college experience. Try not to make it about you. |