How soon to visit in nursing home?

[Anonymous]

Bring some Mcdonalds or Dunkin Donuts gift certificates for the CNA's

[Anonymous]

A month is cruel - what awful advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A month is cruel - what awful advice

Are you a gerontologist?

[Anonymous]

Daily

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend was told not to visit for a month so his parent would settle in.

I think visiting after a day or so to see if she needs anything and * then* starting the one month clock is reasonable

“Settle in”

As in:

“Become completely dependent upon and compliant with the caretaker regime, without the pesky interference of loved ones.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A month is cruel - what awful advice

Are you a gerontologist?

I’m someone who knows how awful most skilled nursing facilities are and anything can happen in that timeframe.

[Anonymous]

You do what you can with the time you have, OP. That's all anyone can do.

[Anonymous]

Ok I visited. She’s angry and sad and begged me to bring her home. But I made friends with the staff and it’s the right decision

[Anonymous]

Do you use video chat with your parents in care facilities? Does the staff facilitate?

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m just curious - was she placed from the hospital, or from home? What is her pay or source?