Why do women complain he won't marry them and they stay with them?

[Anonymous]

Why are women so mad (butt hurt?) about another woman’s choices?

[Anonymous]

Iny experience, women like this move in with a guy without explicitly discussing the future and assume that moving in together is a step toward marriage when the man doesn't see it that way. From there sunk cost fallacy keeps them hanging on. This is why people should be upfront about what they want from a relationship from the beginning.

[Anonymous]

After 30 if a men doesn't want to marry within 18 months, move on. That is if that's what you want, if marriage isn't the goal, you are fine.

[Anonymous]

Because she likes the man more than she likes marriage, or she's not that interested in marriage beyond it being a symbol of status for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People try to handwave it away, but generally speaking, a woman’s capacity for monogamous bonding is enormous. She only becomes desensitized to or rejects pair bonding to the extent that this faculty has been irrepairably damaged.

She will ride until the very end even for an *absolutely awful* man if that’s who’s she’s chosen as her heart interest. It is not societally dictated, it’s simply how she loves as a woman.

Lol get off of instagram.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they don't think anyone else is more likely to marry them either, and starting over would delay their childbearing significantly, perhaps make it impossible.

Some of them don't even have any children. Just let a man live in their house not marry them and not give them any kids and complain about it. It's so strange to me.

It never fails to amaze me how blatantly transactional women are with relationships

[Anonymous]

He probably refuses to leave. I have this same situation, he proposed 2ce earlier and got two rings. Fights happened then we reconnected - now 10 years later still unmarried with a kid. He won't leave tho.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People try to handwave it away, but generally speaking, a woman’s capacity for monogamous bonding is enormous. She only becomes desensitized to or rejects pair bonding to the extent that this faculty has been irrepairably damaged.

She will ride until the very end even for an *absolutely awful* man if that’s who’s she’s chosen as her heart interest. It is not societally dictated, it’s simply how she loves as a woman.

This is deep. Are you a therapist? Not being snarky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pathetic lack of self-worth and can't be alone for 5 minutes. I know a person like this and she's an alcoholic too. Likes to embarrass herself at her own parties.

And yet you go to her parties, you are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People try to handwave it away, but generally speaking, a woman’s capacity for monogamous bonding is enormous. She only becomes desensitized to or rejects pair bonding to the extent that this faculty has been irrepairably damaged.

She will ride until the very end even for an *absolutely awful* man if that’s who’s she’s chosen as her heart interest. It is not societally dictated, it’s simply how she loves as a woman.

Translation: women who won't put up with all kinds of crap from men are damaged.

[Anonymous]

Here my opinion which will probably be unpopular. Women wait until their 30s to start a family and have children. Usually at that point their career is on a good trajectory. But here lies the problem. It's like you race the next gas station because you are running out of gas but when you get there the station ran out of gas. If you look at demographic data for men between 30 and 49 this is the age when many of them suffer from alcoholism, depression, chronic unemployment, debt etc and a few have committed suicide. So the pool that women is chosen from is much smaller than they think. Some women get this illusion from the attention they get on OLD to think that they are plenty of men they can choose from. In reality the completion is fierce. The few men who are not affected by the issues I listed above are in high demand, but sadly they like to move at their own pace because they do not feel the pressure of a ticking biological clock. So naturally women in their 30s are in a "hurry". They may not realize it themselves but ask any guy in his 30s whenever he dates a woman in her 30s it's like a countdown clock has started she will send you passive aggressive hints that you need to make a move and I am not talking 6 months into the relationship I am taking a month into it if they feel you are the right guy. So here we have women who waited and now that they do not want to wait any longer they want to dictate the rules of the game....

[Anonymous]

Why aren't humans perfect rational forethinking long term planners?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here my opinion which will probably be unpopular. Women wait until their 30s to start a family and have children. Usually at that point their career is on a good trajectory. But here lies the problem. It's like you race the next gas station because you are running out of gas but when you get there the station ran out of gas. If you look at demographic data for men between 30 and 49 this is the age when many of them suffer from alcoholism, depression, chronic unemployment, debt etc and a few have committed suicide. So the pool that women is chosen from is much smaller than they think. Some women get this illusion from the attention they get on OLD to think that they are plenty of men they can choose from. In reality the completion is fierce. The few men who are not affected by the issues I listed above are in high demand, but sadly they like to move at their own pace because they do not feel the pressure of a ticking biological clock. So naturally women in their 30s are in a "hurry". They may not realize it themselves but ask any guy in his 30s whenever he dates a woman in her 30s it's like a countdown clock has started she will send you passive aggressive hints that you need to make a move and I am not talking 6 months into the relationship I am taking a month into it if they feel you are the right guy. So here we have women who waited and now that they do not want to wait any longer they want to dictate the rules of the game....

Maybe they wanted to be married in their 20s but the men didn't. While it's true that women are waiting longer prioritizing education and career I truly believe that if a woman in her 20s meet Mr Right and if he is equally interested she will put her plans on hold just to be his wife. As a man I find it amazing that so many men do not realize the advantage that they have. There are far more good women compared to good men. So a random man is more likely to find a great woman compared to a great woman finding a good man. And yet guys sometimes let a good slip by and from there they go down the rabbit hole of dating the women with huge body counts

[Anonymous]

desperate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are woman staying with men that they complain about, that won't marry them? I don't get it. Some even allow their boyfriends to move in to their house, some of these boyfriends even promised to help fix up their house and haven't done a thing. He's a manchild not a boyfriend. Are they that lonely?

Probably because the invested too much time, don't want to start all over.

It's.the sunken cost theory.